My husband was diagnosed with vascular dementia just over 3 years ago, but had been showing signs for some time before. He goes down in stages with quite long gaps in between. Just as I adjust to another stage it changes again. He is becoming very anti social now and only wants to go out with me, where as I need to be with my understanding friends. We have to have things to do, but he never seems to enjoy them unless it involves food. O the repeated questions, over and over and over, and if my voice changes after about the sixth time he gets very annoyed with me. He is getting super critical and makes me feel so low. Sorry about the moan, but it seems to be never ending. I tried to have someone come in say once a fortnight but he threw a paddy and that has been shelved.
Hi Kremlin, I'm new on here also. Your story sounds a lot like mine. My husband was diagnosed 2.5 yrs ago,Alz/Vascular dem.,but I was aware of the illness at least 4yrs prior. Most of the time,when there's just the 2 of us he's manageable, he does have a 'paddy' now & then & usually throws whatever is in his hands at me. Luckily, not been hurt yet. He too is getting to dislike company.We only have family visiting, friends either dead now or 'disappeared'. He just sits,says nothing & it's usually when they've gone, he has his 'paddy' (releasing frustration, I know) My family do try bring him into the conversation but it's hard work . We walk every day, I natter away making small talk but it's getting harder, knowing he's no idea who or what I'm talking about. So sad for both of us. I hold onto the fact that eventually, when he's further down the line with this dreaded disease I may be able to get him into Day care a couple of times a week and hopefully get a bit of my life back. On the odd occasion I manage to meet up with my friend & have a good chin wag & shop, I feel like my old self again. I'm careful not to talk about my husband & the situation at home- don't want to scare her off. Does me good to close my mind to it, also. So, sorry you are feeling so down, let off steam here as often as you like, it helps to get it out of the system. Lovely people on here. Keep your chin up, best wishes