1. Our next Q&A session is on the topic of Christmas and dementia.This time we want our Q&A to involve our resident experts, you! Share tips and advice on navigating Christmas here in this thread.

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  1. byrnedjp

    byrnedjp Registered User

    Mar 21, 2013
    168
    London
    My Uncle has been in poor health for 5 years now and I have been his Full Time Carer throughout - He became markedly weaker and unsteady just prior to Christmas last year - I got the GP to visit and he took Blood and Urine Tests - the results of which showed no major cause for concern - His appetite worsened mid December and the GP visited again - a brief examination and chat with my Uncle (who was lucid and responsive to all the GPs questions - nothing out of the ordinary) resulted in the GP asking me to pick up some Forms from the Surgery the following Day.

    I picked up a 2nd generation A4 Photocopy explaining that my Uncle was in "end of life" care

    No explanation from the GP - No follow up Phone Call - Nothing

    All in the week up to Christmas
     
  2. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    10,784
    Female
    South coast
    I am so sorry byrnedjp. Doctors can sometimes be so thoughtless that it is breathtaking.

    My mum passed away a few weeks ago. She had not eaten or drunk anything for 17 days before she died, but remained lucid and recognised me right up until her last couple of days. I have a photo taken 4 days before the end, but to look at it you would not believe that she was actively dying - it shows her with her grandson, both banging teaspoons on the table and laughing!
     
  3. byrnedjp

    byrnedjp Registered User

    Mar 21, 2013
    168
    London
    #3 byrnedjp, May 10, 2017
    Last edited: May 11, 2017
    Canary

    Thank you for your reply

    Indeed it is breathtaking and not uncommon, and it heightens the isolation and lack of support as a Carer

    Like a fool I imagined "end of life" care would involve a more sympathetic and professional approach from District Nurses, Social Workers. GPs and all those involved with my Uncle and I - sadly its as poor as it has been from the start

    I am sorry to hear of your loss

    Best Wishes
     

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