Hi everyone,
Having just got through my dad's passing away after fighting Vascular Dementia last month, we are now faced with a dilemma over my mum's care and in particular her nutritional intake.
During a routine checklist for the DST she was discovered to have lost a staggering 22% of her body weight over the past six months. As we live a fair distance (90 minutes drive) from the nursing home, we only get to visit fortnightly and were aware she had got extremely thin, and that staff were having issues with getting her to eat, but she was always slender & somewhat delicate - having a 22" waist for much of her life - and has been a picky eater for as long as I can remember, however we weren't aware that things had got so serious.
The care plan we agreed with the nursing home said that we wanted minimal intervention for both my parents and as long ago as last year staff said she was too frail to survive CPR as her ribs would be in danger of being broken. When my dad was discharged from hospital back to the nursing home in April after his last stroke we discussed IV feeding, but all concerned (us, his GP and hospital/nursing home staff) agreed it was better not to go down that route.
However, whilst mum is in the later stages of Alzheimer's (unlike my dad who had VD and exhibited extremely challenging behaviour as well as suffering several strokes that left him bed-ridden), she is still able to be dressed and led (with the aid of staff and a frame) to a chair in the lounge and on the face of it is nowhere near the end. She is doubly incontinent though and has severe cognitive issues.
When we visit we always try to tempt her with soft, mousse-like treats that are easier to swallow, but she spits everything out and staff say she does the same at many meal times, with them often resorting to offering her one alternative after another to no avail.
Up till now no-one at the home has suggested alternative methods of getting her food and fluid intake up, although they have put her on a supplement that she also refuses to take![Eek! :eek: :eek:](data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7)
Regardless of whether the DST (set for 9th July) concludes she is eligible for CHC, she appears to be in danger of just fading away......although as cruel as that sounds, DH and I think that's what she herself would prefer were she in possession of her faculties still, especially if she fully understood that her beloved husband of 61 years has passed away![Frown :( :(](data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7)
So what do we do......and if she is awarded CHC funding will the decision be taken out of our hands as she will no longer be self funding? I hate the idea of her having to be PEG-fed, but in such cases of extreme weight loss is that the only real option?
Help please.....x
Having just got through my dad's passing away after fighting Vascular Dementia last month, we are now faced with a dilemma over my mum's care and in particular her nutritional intake.
During a routine checklist for the DST she was discovered to have lost a staggering 22% of her body weight over the past six months. As we live a fair distance (90 minutes drive) from the nursing home, we only get to visit fortnightly and were aware she had got extremely thin, and that staff were having issues with getting her to eat, but she was always slender & somewhat delicate - having a 22" waist for much of her life - and has been a picky eater for as long as I can remember, however we weren't aware that things had got so serious.
The care plan we agreed with the nursing home said that we wanted minimal intervention for both my parents and as long ago as last year staff said she was too frail to survive CPR as her ribs would be in danger of being broken. When my dad was discharged from hospital back to the nursing home in April after his last stroke we discussed IV feeding, but all concerned (us, his GP and hospital/nursing home staff) agreed it was better not to go down that route.
However, whilst mum is in the later stages of Alzheimer's (unlike my dad who had VD and exhibited extremely challenging behaviour as well as suffering several strokes that left him bed-ridden), she is still able to be dressed and led (with the aid of staff and a frame) to a chair in the lounge and on the face of it is nowhere near the end. She is doubly incontinent though and has severe cognitive issues.
When we visit we always try to tempt her with soft, mousse-like treats that are easier to swallow, but she spits everything out and staff say she does the same at many meal times, with them often resorting to offering her one alternative after another to no avail.
Up till now no-one at the home has suggested alternative methods of getting her food and fluid intake up, although they have put her on a supplement that she also refuses to take
Regardless of whether the DST (set for 9th July) concludes she is eligible for CHC, she appears to be in danger of just fading away......although as cruel as that sounds, DH and I think that's what she herself would prefer were she in possession of her faculties still, especially if she fully understood that her beloved husband of 61 years has passed away
So what do we do......and if she is awarded CHC funding will the decision be taken out of our hands as she will no longer be self funding? I hate the idea of her having to be PEG-fed, but in such cases of extreme weight loss is that the only real option?
Help please.....x