My 84-year old husband, diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, has been told by the memory consultant that he can continue to drive for now, on condition it is local, during daylight hours, and in good conditions.
I’ve just found out, by checking his email, that he’s agreed to give a talk (which is something he does) 40 miles away and that he’ll drive himself there….. It’s a journey that would involve high speed dual carriageways and driving somewhere he’s not at all familiar with. I also think he’d struggle to use a satnav and drive safely at the same time.
We had discussed this journey a couple of days ago and he agreed he would travel by train and ask to get collected at the other end. On reflection, I’m not convinced he’d be able to manage it as it’s quite a complex train journey with two changes. But he’s clearly forgotten that conversation and has told the organiser he’s going to drive himself there!
I’m torn between (1) not wanting to mess the organiser about, (2) wanting my husband (and everyone else) to be safe on the road, and (3) not wanting to stop my husband giving the talk as it’s good for his brain and social interaction. He seems oblivious to the various risks and issues, and I feel like a Grade A spoilsport. What do I do?
I’ve just found out, by checking his email, that he’s agreed to give a talk (which is something he does) 40 miles away and that he’ll drive himself there….. It’s a journey that would involve high speed dual carriageways and driving somewhere he’s not at all familiar with. I also think he’d struggle to use a satnav and drive safely at the same time.
We had discussed this journey a couple of days ago and he agreed he would travel by train and ask to get collected at the other end. On reflection, I’m not convinced he’d be able to manage it as it’s quite a complex train journey with two changes. But he’s clearly forgotten that conversation and has told the organiser he’s going to drive himself there!
I’m torn between (1) not wanting to mess the organiser about, (2) wanting my husband (and everyone else) to be safe on the road, and (3) not wanting to stop my husband giving the talk as it’s good for his brain and social interaction. He seems oblivious to the various risks and issues, and I feel like a Grade A spoilsport. What do I do?