I have been a carer for my great uncle for 5 years now the last 18 months he has lived with me as he wasn't safe on his own. The first year was as I had expected, hard work but worth the effort he flourished and actually improved! But my children are 19 and 23, I could never have coped if they had been younger. To keep him well, Happy, safe and healthy our house has had to revolve around him. The last 6 months have become even harder, and today I feel so down and miserable. Due to his decline in the last few months, we have a whole bank holiday weekend ahead of us with good weather on the way, and it will be spent indoors with all windows and doors closed, the fire will be on he feels so cold all the time and hates drafts, we can't go out as he has to be close to a toilet and is having trouble with his feet so can't walk far. I can't have a lie in as he gets up early and can't be left.
We can't have friends around as he can't cope with to much noise or to much talking!
I understand exactly how your daughter feels, and understand that your mum will most probably not be anything like my uncle as everyone is different, but please get her to rethink her decision, for the first time today I felt real resentment towards my uncle because of the weekend ahead, he accused me of taking his comb, and for the first time I snapped and argued, something I know I mustn't do.
I now feel guilt for snapping and sadness that I now know it's time to put him into a care home, as I don't want my great memories of him to be marred by resentment.
Sorry to be such a grump, I hope you come to the right decision for your mum and yourselves xx
We can't have friends around as he can't cope with to much noise or to much talking!
I understand exactly how your daughter feels, and understand that your mum will most probably not be anything like my uncle as everyone is different, but please get her to rethink her decision, for the first time today I felt real resentment towards my uncle because of the weekend ahead, he accused me of taking his comb, and for the first time I snapped and argued, something I know I mustn't do.
I now feel guilt for snapping and sadness that I now know it's time to put him into a care home, as I don't want my great memories of him to be marred by resentment.
Sorry to be such a grump, I hope you come to the right decision for your mum and yourselves xx