Hi All
I was just wondering if anyone else has experienced this. I suppose I am aiming this moreso at people on here whose parent has this illness.
Has anyone else been totally taken for granted by their siblings and left to do everything? and if so why?
Mom has vascular dementia, moderate+ I would say, and although she lives with my Dad they are both in their 80's and I, being the only female child have had to take over. The "boys" make a rare appearance, the 1 only 3 times a year and the other rarely too. I feel so, so sad for Mom as she misses them so much and wonders what has happened. Their reasons are too busy with work, familys ETC. My god could we all not say that!!!! I am a single parent with health problems myself and have had to put working on hold as I feel I could not desert them like the others have.
I dont feel a hero and I dont do it out of duty but some days I feel so taken for granted by my Brothers. Had the chance to go abroad for a week soon but I really feel I could not not be there for Mom and her dozens of distressed phone calls a day that I get.
They both said the other day they would be lost without me and its only them keeping them alive (their perception, im not a saint ) but it did strike a chord with me and I did think when they are no longer here I will take comfort in the fact I was there for them. I have evil thoughts that my Brothers will find a few mins to spare when the will is read!!!
Anyway just some thoughts. Hope I dont sound resentful, I would have to make do if I was an only child but I am not and hence the anger does come in sometimes.
Anyway take care to all carers out there and excuse me my grrrrrrr day
K xxx
I was just wondering if anyone else has experienced this. I suppose I am aiming this moreso at people on here whose parent has this illness.
Has anyone else been totally taken for granted by their siblings and left to do everything? and if so why?
Mom has vascular dementia, moderate+ I would say, and although she lives with my Dad they are both in their 80's and I, being the only female child have had to take over. The "boys" make a rare appearance, the 1 only 3 times a year and the other rarely too. I feel so, so sad for Mom as she misses them so much and wonders what has happened. Their reasons are too busy with work, familys ETC. My god could we all not say that!!!! I am a single parent with health problems myself and have had to put working on hold as I feel I could not desert them like the others have.
I dont feel a hero and I dont do it out of duty but some days I feel so taken for granted by my Brothers. Had the chance to go abroad for a week soon but I really feel I could not not be there for Mom and her dozens of distressed phone calls a day that I get.
They both said the other day they would be lost without me and its only them keeping them alive (their perception, im not a saint ) but it did strike a chord with me and I did think when they are no longer here I will take comfort in the fact I was there for them. I have evil thoughts that my Brothers will find a few mins to spare when the will is read!!!
Anyway just some thoughts. Hope I dont sound resentful, I would have to make do if I was an only child but I am not and hence the anger does come in sometimes.
Anyway take care to all carers out there and excuse me my grrrrrrr day
K xxx