Hi Janice,
We felt exactly the same when we had to get mum "assessed" in the hospital, beginning of december. The social worker and Crisis nurse took her away in their car, I had to tell dad to come away from the window, we had to tell her she was just going in for a rest. I knew then, that she'd never be coming home, it was heartbreaking, we're waiting to get mum into a home now, and that will be heartbreaking again, but I agree, we've got to console ourselves that thinking they are safe, fed and watered, getting the care, that in most cases is beyond our realistic means. I hope she settles soon and you can have nice visits, I've done an album for mum too, but she doesn't look at it at the moment, I can just hope, when, and if, she calms down a bit, I can look through it with her.
xxx
sally.