Hi
Yesterday mum moved from her own home into a care home. The move itself went better than I had expected. I found it very upsetting leaving mum but I know that it is the right time for her to move and I am really pleased with the home that we have chosen for her.
I called this morning to ask how she had been last night and was told that she had been ok but this morning she didn't want to get up. I called again just now to be told that today she has flatly refused all food and drink and that she is saying she shouldn't be there and she should be back in her own home.
I'm told that as mum is not ill they are not too worried at this stage as mum is simply digging her heels in she is quite strong willed!!!! and I was told not to worry but I am worrying. I know that there will be a settling in period but I didn't think for one minute that mum would refuse to eat or drink. Has anyone else encountered this when their loved one has moved into a care home?
After all the stress leading up to this point I now feel so emotionally drained and terrified that mum will simply not eat or drink and make herself ill.
I also appreciate that I should stay away as I know that if I turn up then I'm sure it make the situation even worse because as soon as mum sees me she will demand that I take her home
I just pray that she does settle soon.
Take care everyone
Love Dibs (Deborah) x
Yesterday mum moved from her own home into a care home. The move itself went better than I had expected. I found it very upsetting leaving mum but I know that it is the right time for her to move and I am really pleased with the home that we have chosen for her.
I called this morning to ask how she had been last night and was told that she had been ok but this morning she didn't want to get up. I called again just now to be told that today she has flatly refused all food and drink and that she is saying she shouldn't be there and she should be back in her own home.
I'm told that as mum is not ill they are not too worried at this stage as mum is simply digging her heels in she is quite strong willed!!!! and I was told not to worry but I am worrying. I know that there will be a settling in period but I didn't think for one minute that mum would refuse to eat or drink. Has anyone else encountered this when their loved one has moved into a care home?
After all the stress leading up to this point I now feel so emotionally drained and terrified that mum will simply not eat or drink and make herself ill.
I also appreciate that I should stay away as I know that if I turn up then I'm sure it make the situation even worse because as soon as mum sees me she will demand that I take her home
I just pray that she does settle soon.
Take care everyone
Love Dibs (Deborah) x