Families indeed!! Lynmax you and your siblings are to be much admired for the way you share the care.
My sister and her family created so much trouble when mum chose to move in with us after dad died three years ago. You wouldn't believe the depths they sunk to.
We never ever replied to any of the threatening / abusive / intimidating texts and emails that came our way, because I didn't want to cause any grief for my sister and now I'm so pleased we didn't retaliate.
Their provocative behaviour resulted in SS themselves,reporting my sister and her husband to the local police and mum's protection became a priority safeguarding issue.
And isn't it funny that since they were officially warned, over two years ago now, they have become invisible. My sister and her family show no interest whatsoever in how mum is nor offer to help with her care.
In the days when they were trying their utmost to have mums mental capacity declared as incapacity, (and they tried really hard), a policeman told us that the aggression that was coming our way was because of money and sure enough, once mum's savings were secured for her future care, they stopped their bullying campaign.
I feel sorry for my sister as she targeted not just mum and my family, but our cousin's as well; she caused a huge rift which may never be healed.
You hear stories of family bust-ups and I always secretly thought it would never happen in our family.
Well, it did.