Crying night after night
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I think my Mum had diazepam and it was a bit hit and miss if it worked to calm her. Maybe you can increase the dose a little - from half to a whole tablet, if you get the doctor's advice. Can you speak to the surgery by phone (in the day, of course). Also, be careful it doesn't make her too drowsy so that it is difficult for her to get up to bed.
It is a very difficult situation for you. My mother's was rather different as she had chronic pain as well which made her very distressed. In the end, though I hated the idea of strangers in the home, I did have a night carer to sit up with her for 10 hours from 10 pm - 8pm. Mum slept downstairs so the carer would sit on the settee. Sometimes it didn't help as I slept in the room above. Mum did have SS funding but I also paid for extra nights when I broke my shoulder.
I imagine you would have to get the solicitor who is your mother's deputy, to approve any payments you made to carers? I would, as others have suggested, also considered respite for a week or two with her staying in residential care. It can be a very harrowing experience if she resists and if she is not happy there but you never know how it will turn out till you try. Also, it would give you a much needed breather.
Persist with the GP - or can you get her to a mental health clinic/hospital department with a dementia specialist? Press for a referral from your GP as they have more experience in the type of medication used for anxiety and distress.
I hope you have a good night tonight. I feel for you as I know how it is.
It is a very difficult situation for you. My mother's was rather different as she had chronic pain as well which made her very distressed. In the end, though I hated the idea of strangers in the home, I did have a night carer to sit up with her for 10 hours from 10 pm - 8pm. Mum slept downstairs so the carer would sit on the settee. Sometimes it didn't help as I slept in the room above. Mum did have SS funding but I also paid for extra nights when I broke my shoulder.
I imagine you would have to get the solicitor who is your mother's deputy, to approve any payments you made to carers? I would, as others have suggested, also considered respite for a week or two with her staying in residential care. It can be a very harrowing experience if she resists and if she is not happy there but you never know how it will turn out till you try. Also, it would give you a much needed breather.
Persist with the GP - or can you get her to a mental health clinic/hospital department with a dementia specialist? Press for a referral from your GP as they have more experience in the type of medication used for anxiety and distress.
I hope you have a good night tonight. I feel for you as I know how it is.
Thank you for enquiring. Its getting worse and worse. I have updated on a new post called "Just Appalling" x
Link to update thread https://forum.alzheimers.org.uk/thr...revious-post-crying-night-after-night.113541/
It's so hard isn't it? Trying to work it all out. I hope things are soon resolved.
