Can I ... Should I?
- Thread starter Sam Luvit
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Thanks for your update @Margi29 - only just seen posts.- not been on TP that much last couple of weeks (catching up on several years of neglected garden, and neglected house, also need to catch up on same number of years of neglected paperwork)
@Sam Luvit - sending massive hugs, thinking of you and your mum
@Sam Luvit - sending massive hugs, thinking of you and your mum
Thank you everyone, I will speak later to @Sam Luvit and let her know you are all thinking of her and her mum.
This is such a good site, not just for information and allowing us all to rant when necessary, but for the support and understanding when things are hard.
This is such a good site, not just for information and allowing us all to rant when necessary, but for the support and understanding when things are hard.
Margi, thank you so much for the update from Sam. Of course we understand and of course there is no need for her to post anything unless she wants to. You are very kind to relay messages.
Sam, dearest Sam, I am so sorry to hear the news about your mum. I wish I could come and sit in hospital with you, but the best I can do is a lot of (((hugs))) and letting you know how much we care and how concerned we are.
Sam, dearest Sam, I am so sorry to hear the news about your mum. I wish I could come and sit in hospital with you, but the best I can do is a lot of (((hugs))) and letting you know how much we care and how concerned we are.
I just got home. I’m so tired, but I need to eat & walk Pooch. Arrrggghhhhh
Yesterday ended at 03.00 (Mum didn’t want to go to bed, so I bullied her & finally tucked her in at 01.00) & today started at 05.09
I’m just a tiny bit dazed
She’s been x-rayed up the yin yan Collar bone, chest, hip & leg are not broken, but very badly bruised. She has a massive black eye, bruises on her cheek & neck. She has a small break in her pelvis, but it’s not displaced, so although painful is not a worry. She’s also broken her wrist again, they said it was “in pieces”
She also has a massive haematoma on her shin bone & they will keep a close eye on that.
I had to help hold her down to manipulate it back in place. She had 5 injections & entinox, but still kicked & fought like crazy. I never want to do that again. She can risk the GA deterioration rather than go through that pain, it was cruel & I felt horrid holding her down.
Her CT scan shows a marked deterioration in the Alzheimers since January, they were shocked at the scan. They said it has & is progressing rapidly, also she has almost no capacity
Hostess Mode is amazing. I saw one of the am ambulance crew & he said she was totally with it & he was querying if she had any dementia... then he spoke to the staff at the hospital
Yesterday ended at 03.00 (Mum didn’t want to go to bed, so I bullied her & finally tucked her in at 01.00) & today started at 05.09
I’m just a tiny bit dazedShe’s been x-rayed up the yin yan
Collar bone, chest, hip & leg are not broken, but very badly bruised. She has a massive black eye, bruises on her cheek & neck. She has a small break in her pelvis, but it’s not displaced, so although painful is not a worry. She’s also broken her wrist again, they said it was “in pieces” She also has a massive haematoma on her shin bone & they will keep a close eye on that.
I had to help hold her down to manipulate it back in place. She had 5 injections & entinox, but still kicked & fought like crazy. I never want to do that again. She can risk the GA deterioration rather than go through that pain, it was cruel & I felt horrid holding her down.
Her CT scan shows a marked deterioration in the Alzheimers since January, they were shocked at the scan. They said it has & is progressing rapidly, also she has almost no capacity
Hostess Mode is amazing. I saw one of the am ambulance crew & he said she was totally with it & he was querying if she had any dementia... then he spoke to the staff at the hospital
Thank you @Margi29
No internet connection or signal on the ward or in A&E, so I’ve only just logged back in
I'm glad to hear it, I was going to suggest you didn't - there is only so much you can do, it isn't your fault, it is the illness.
Hope you sleep tonight, or maybe have a few catnaps this evening and sleep tonight.
I've got a bit more frantic juggling yet - parents night done, son delivered to fencing, and now got to decorate son's cake (it is iced) before I collect him from fencing - then birthday tea, unwrap pressies and pack son's bag for scout camp.
Oh Sam...poor you..poor mum. I can totally empathise with you and the distress you feel and witness having to hold your mum down even with sedation. I had to do that also many times for medically frightened dad and it will stay with me forever. I never imagined I would have to hold dad down while he had a catheter fitted ...while he had stitches in his badly cut face ...trying to hold his cannula in place and stopping him from ripping it out. Horrible to face.Along with other horrid things we have to do and see I wish those who just think of dementia as a bit of memory loss etc could see our pain at the situations we never ever thought we would have to deal with. Hugs to you ..pooch walk..cup of tea...something to eat...and bed.
Good decision. She will be taken care of. Maybe not as well as you care for her, but there is a bank of staff to do the job you have been doing on your own.
Take some time to give yourself some respite. You will need a rested head/brain to discuss/sort what the furtive holds once she is discharged
Silly question maybe.... is brother in contact with you?
More squishy hugs xxx
