Hubby has just returned from the meeting arranged today re fil. He has alzheimers, is registered blind and has limited mobility since he broke his hip and has been in a care home since November. Social worker has seen him 3 times and deemed him to have mental capacity to decide where he wanted to live. We had to have him assessed as he kept on demanding to go home and the care home said we had to contact social services for a formal assessment. When she advised that she thought he had mental capacity on that particular day we disagreed and a best interest meeting was arranged for today. Hubby said he only managed to get one point across, fil was at the entire meeting which we were told by the home he would not. Care home manager barely said a word. Hubby said he wasn't safe to go back home, ,he has had 7 falls since went in there, one only two days ago (which he didn't remember ) as he really unsteady on his feet. In fact the SW had to catch him as he got up from his chair at the end of the meeting as he was about to go flat on his face!!
Dementia nurse and SW both don't dispute that he should be in the home due to safety but they say they cannot stop him going home if he wants to, even though he will have another fall and probably end up back in hospital before the week is out, it is the law.
There is another meeting in a month as we firmly disagree and we are thinking of asking the memory clinic to assess his mental capacity as we have received a letter from them with an appointment. Can they overrule the SW that made the first decision?
It is so ridiculous, they will set up carers 4 times a day (with his money as he doesn't qualify for any help and we've said we will not do anything to organise care as we don't agree she is capable of going back. Hubby has POA but they say he cannot do anything as fil has mental capacity to make a complex decision on where he wants to live. He doesn't remember he has alzheimers or that he broke his hip but that is irrelevant apparently. What on earth do we do?
Dementia nurse and SW both don't dispute that he should be in the home due to safety but they say they cannot stop him going home if he wants to, even though he will have another fall and probably end up back in hospital before the week is out, it is the law.
There is another meeting in a month as we firmly disagree and we are thinking of asking the memory clinic to assess his mental capacity as we have received a letter from them with an appointment. Can they overrule the SW that made the first decision?
It is so ridiculous, they will set up carers 4 times a day (with his money as he doesn't qualify for any help and we've said we will not do anything to organise care as we don't agree she is capable of going back. Hubby has POA but they say he cannot do anything as fil has mental capacity to make a complex decision on where he wants to live. He doesn't remember he has alzheimers or that he broke his hip but that is irrelevant apparently. What on earth do we do?