Well we have finally decided with the help of social services that MIL needs to go in to a hone soon. SS have been brilliant with their help and we have worked out that she will do one day a week with a view to moving in. Anyway to try and do it gently as she gets very upset we have tried to convincer her that the Alzheimer's society she attends is moving. We will be stopping her care there and taking her to the home. The question is people have ask us how she feels about it. Would you tell her that she will eventually be moving in. She has already gone mad and said she doesn't want to go to a new place. It causing us so much stress and guilt but I will be honest in saying I can't wait. After 10 years of us caring I need my life back and she is getting so difficult How have other people felt with this? Do you try and explain your moving them in or would you just leave them one day when the time comes. I really don't know!