Good morning I have not been on here for a while,
Dad is at his own home with carers 4 times a day at the moment because Mum is worn out she is staying with us.
They now have a care manager but not sure about his roll in the situation. I ring him quite a lot to explain things about Dad but it feels like he shrugs what I say off.
Dad either won't let the carers in or leaves the front door open for them, he has refused to have a key safe fitted saying it's his home and he decides who goes in. When I told Yemi (CM) to fit one he said he could not be done as Dad still has mental capacity and if he says no then that's it. So now we have to make sure the front door is not left open. I don't live too far away but it's another problem to cope with.
The mental health team say that as he can still make decisions he has mental capacity even if the decisions are wrong. This doesn't make sense to me and in the mean time my Mum does not want to go back home. I have already had two weeks off work so must go back soon.
I am nearly at my wits end with worry for both of them and sometimes think I will end up in hospital.
Sorry if I'm ranting on but I feel as if I'm banging my head against a brick wall most of the time.
I have been reading the posts on here and can see a lot of us are in the same boat.
Funny thought maybe we should all sail away and let somebody else take over.
I know we could never do that.
Dad is at his own home with carers 4 times a day at the moment because Mum is worn out she is staying with us.
They now have a care manager but not sure about his roll in the situation. I ring him quite a lot to explain things about Dad but it feels like he shrugs what I say off.
Dad either won't let the carers in or leaves the front door open for them, he has refused to have a key safe fitted saying it's his home and he decides who goes in. When I told Yemi (CM) to fit one he said he could not be done as Dad still has mental capacity and if he says no then that's it. So now we have to make sure the front door is not left open. I don't live too far away but it's another problem to cope with.
The mental health team say that as he can still make decisions he has mental capacity even if the decisions are wrong. This doesn't make sense to me and in the mean time my Mum does not want to go back home. I have already had two weeks off work so must go back soon.
I am nearly at my wits end with worry for both of them and sometimes think I will end up in hospital.
Sorry if I'm ranting on but I feel as if I'm banging my head against a brick wall most of the time.
I have been reading the posts on here and can see a lot of us are in the same boat.
Funny thought maybe we should all sail away and let somebody else take over.
I know we could never do that.