HI, just been flicking through various posts and found sad so many going through this nightmare, and yet comfort so much mutual support and understanding. I'm 47 with an 88 yr old mum, today diagnosed with early stages of Alzheimer - myself and my daughter, (and mum), suspected for nearly a year. Brain currently overwhelmed, so much to think about, and that's before letting feelings in - daren't go there yet .
First dilemma - I have three sister in their 60's, 2 live hour and half away and have always had difficult relationship with mum so not overly helpful. 3rd sister lives nearer than myself but has always had a very negative outlook on life, and moans and complains about everything -especially if not done her way. She cleans for mum weekly and is great in helping out with all the practical stuff BUT constantly criticizes mum frequently has her in tears over nothing. My daughter and I, who see more of mum than anyone, have both tried to politely' and slightly less so, point out to sis to chill out a bit - not worked. Just don't think I can cope with helping mum AND dealing with all my sisters too. Specially as recently set up own business and just started a uni degree. Sorry to just moan but any advice/suggestions most appreciated. And more importantly, to everyone out there - keep the faith, much love, joy and peace to you all, Morgaine xxx
First dilemma - I have three sister in their 60's, 2 live hour and half away and have always had difficult relationship with mum so not overly helpful. 3rd sister lives nearer than myself but has always had a very negative outlook on life, and moans and complains about everything -especially if not done her way. She cleans for mum weekly and is great in helping out with all the practical stuff BUT constantly criticizes mum frequently has her in tears over nothing. My daughter and I, who see more of mum than anyone, have both tried to politely' and slightly less so, point out to sis to chill out a bit - not worked. Just don't think I can cope with helping mum AND dealing with all my sisters too. Specially as recently set up own business and just started a uni degree. Sorry to just moan but any advice/suggestions most appreciated. And more importantly, to everyone out there - keep the faith, much love, joy and peace to you all, Morgaine xxx