Hi All,
Crikey, how does this work.....
My mum who has mental issues (but the medical profession fail to recognise this) is treated as my dads carer. My mum has never looked after him, in fact she mocks and antagonises him, she never cooks for him either.
My dad has alzheimer's and works full time at 70yrs old...without him the house would go under. My mum fights with my dad everyday from the minute he gets home from work. The other day he went to bed at 8pm without eating dinner as my mum stated yet another argument. Makes me laugh, my mum a carer she wouldn't know how to spell the word. I'm disgusted, I've been the carer and never have I got support apart from TP'ers.
In my opinion he is being bullied by her and he looks very unwell. My concern is how to protect him.
My mums mental instability means I am no longer talking to her as she plays far to many games and highly manipulative. She has the whole medical profession fooled and poor dad is suffering. I feel like he is the vulnerable person and when we have mentioned this to the daft memory clinic nurses they ignore anything we- dad and I say...who would believe someone with alzheimer's and who would listen to the actual carer when my mum accused me of being the root of all her issues/tension. See my mum told the CPN I organised to support/educate her after my dads diagnosis. Never did i imagine she would make up elaborate stories and false accusations. The CPN nurses have told me to take a step back and let my mum intervene and attend my dads memory appts. She has memory and mental issues herself, how can I trust someone like her with my dads care. My dad doesn't want het attending the appts. The CPN breach trust and still reveal details of my dads previous appts to her?!
My dad is getting tired and fed up that no one will listen and he can not reason with my mum. He wants to stop his medication and stop seeing the memory clinic....its almost like he is giving up and wants to die. He is too scared to spend time with me because my mum gets angry at him or argues with him for doing so. I feel I am loosing my dad because of her.
Can anyone advise please?
Crikey, how does this work.....
My mum who has mental issues (but the medical profession fail to recognise this) is treated as my dads carer. My mum has never looked after him, in fact she mocks and antagonises him, she never cooks for him either.
My dad has alzheimer's and works full time at 70yrs old...without him the house would go under. My mum fights with my dad everyday from the minute he gets home from work. The other day he went to bed at 8pm without eating dinner as my mum stated yet another argument. Makes me laugh, my mum a carer she wouldn't know how to spell the word. I'm disgusted, I've been the carer and never have I got support apart from TP'ers.
In my opinion he is being bullied by her and he looks very unwell. My concern is how to protect him.
My mums mental instability means I am no longer talking to her as she plays far to many games and highly manipulative. She has the whole medical profession fooled and poor dad is suffering. I feel like he is the vulnerable person and when we have mentioned this to the daft memory clinic nurses they ignore anything we- dad and I say...who would believe someone with alzheimer's and who would listen to the actual carer when my mum accused me of being the root of all her issues/tension. See my mum told the CPN I organised to support/educate her after my dads diagnosis. Never did i imagine she would make up elaborate stories and false accusations. The CPN nurses have told me to take a step back and let my mum intervene and attend my dads memory appts. She has memory and mental issues herself, how can I trust someone like her with my dads care. My dad doesn't want het attending the appts. The CPN breach trust and still reveal details of my dads previous appts to her?!
My dad is getting tired and fed up that no one will listen and he can not reason with my mum. He wants to stop his medication and stop seeing the memory clinic....its almost like he is giving up and wants to die. He is too scared to spend time with me because my mum gets angry at him or argues with him for doing so. I feel I am loosing my dad because of her.
Can anyone advise please?