Hello, can anyone give me advice?
My sister who is recovering from cancer is demanding that she has money from my Dads account.
I have active POA for Dad. My mum passed last January and both my sisters wanted her money. It was all very distressing as I knew that man and dads will was in their house and stated all mams assets were to go to Dad in the event of her death.
And in the event of final parents death all assets are to be divided between 3 daughters.
I’m the oldest and relocated to my parents town to help them both with dementias and Parkinson’s.
My younger sister could not deal with anything she attempted suicide twice and kept getting arrested with her alcoholic boyfriend.
Total dramas, unbelievable dramas with her daughter also all this when my mum and dad really needed help.
I had to try to support both my parents when their lives were falling apart.
Then my sister got diagnosed with cancer, so even more so. It was totally heartbreaking time and I had to deal with everything for my mum and dad….not stressing my sister with all the problems, hospitalisation of mam, care home, all the arrangements etc POA for mam and dad.
The Pandemic was devastating at this time. My mum in a care home and my deaf father with Alzeimers living alone.
My other sister borrowed £10,000 from my father during this time, which infuriated my young sister who had cancer.
Since then both of them have been wanting money.
I did not apply for a debit card my POA for my father until my father had a stroke and was found by my sister and rushed to hospital.
I would have to deal with social services, all his bills etc.
My sister took his bank card and withdrew £3000 from his account and took thousands of pounds from his house he kept in his draw.
I was so shocked that she had done this, I saw in his bank statements that I had to cancel his card.
She was furious…
I tried to explain to her that this was wrong. She had no right to take Dads money.
Anyway, I resolved this matter with our solicitor
this is two years ago now
Dad has had several more strokes and is now resident in a care home with Alzeimers and unable to walk. He is very frail.
My sister is bullying and manipulative in her language and it is very distressing to even talk with her I have endured a barrage of abuse from her wanting to move her daughter into my Dads empty house.
To then wanting to sell his house and be given money from the sale. Now she is wanting her inheritance now because she is recovering from cancer and wants it now.
I’m so stressed out with her rudeness and demanding language. I try to explain to her it’s not my money to give. Dad is still alive and it is his money. I did say I would ask the solicitor but honestly, I’ve had so much abuse from her that I feel ill after talking to her.
I’ve tried to keep things civil but she is so full of hate for me. It’s unbelievable.
I don’t know what to do.
She left a really demanding text so I called her and the abuse and language from her left me shaking. This is four days ago. It is so abusive.
Mam died last January and both these sisters have caused nothing but anguish and abuse towards me. I cannot stand anymore. Its horrible.
My sister who is recovering from cancer is demanding that she has money from my Dads account.
I have active POA for Dad. My mum passed last January and both my sisters wanted her money. It was all very distressing as I knew that man and dads will was in their house and stated all mams assets were to go to Dad in the event of her death.
And in the event of final parents death all assets are to be divided between 3 daughters.
I’m the oldest and relocated to my parents town to help them both with dementias and Parkinson’s.
My younger sister could not deal with anything she attempted suicide twice and kept getting arrested with her alcoholic boyfriend.
Total dramas, unbelievable dramas with her daughter also all this when my mum and dad really needed help.
I had to try to support both my parents when their lives were falling apart.
Then my sister got diagnosed with cancer, so even more so. It was totally heartbreaking time and I had to deal with everything for my mum and dad….not stressing my sister with all the problems, hospitalisation of mam, care home, all the arrangements etc POA for mam and dad.
The Pandemic was devastating at this time. My mum in a care home and my deaf father with Alzeimers living alone.
My other sister borrowed £10,000 from my father during this time, which infuriated my young sister who had cancer.
Since then both of them have been wanting money.
I did not apply for a debit card my POA for my father until my father had a stroke and was found by my sister and rushed to hospital.
I would have to deal with social services, all his bills etc.
My sister took his bank card and withdrew £3000 from his account and took thousands of pounds from his house he kept in his draw.
I was so shocked that she had done this, I saw in his bank statements that I had to cancel his card.
She was furious…
I tried to explain to her that this was wrong. She had no right to take Dads money.
Anyway, I resolved this matter with our solicitor
this is two years ago now
Dad has had several more strokes and is now resident in a care home with Alzeimers and unable to walk. He is very frail.
My sister is bullying and manipulative in her language and it is very distressing to even talk with her I have endured a barrage of abuse from her wanting to move her daughter into my Dads empty house.
To then wanting to sell his house and be given money from the sale. Now she is wanting her inheritance now because she is recovering from cancer and wants it now.
I’m so stressed out with her rudeness and demanding language. I try to explain to her it’s not my money to give. Dad is still alive and it is his money. I did say I would ask the solicitor but honestly, I’ve had so much abuse from her that I feel ill after talking to her.
I’ve tried to keep things civil but she is so full of hate for me. It’s unbelievable.
I don’t know what to do.
She left a really demanding text so I called her and the abuse and language from her left me shaking. This is four days ago. It is so abusive.
Mam died last January and both these sisters have caused nothing but anguish and abuse towards me. I cannot stand anymore. Its horrible.