Many thanks will try it xHello @AngelinaBallerina and welcome to Dementia Talking Point. You'll find a lot of advice and support here.
About showering - I used to offer my mother a choice of a bath or a shower. This at least gave her the option of choice. I don't know if your OH would take a bath, men often prefer showers. Can you say you are going somewhere special so a shower is in order? Then go for a coffee, perhaps. Anything to keep up the illusion.
Hi Quite contrary.....Oh my goodness and I don't mean it rudely but am relieved to know that I'm not the only one having this problem but I've been too embarrassed to tell anyone or admit it even on here stupidly as I know no one judges but still...4-5 days?! I am lucky if I can get my husband to bath every 4-5 weeks! And he is someone who years ago would bath daily.
Hi @jennifer1967im lucky that i shower my husband every day. sometimes he can be reluctant and ive just said that it stops the nagging wife nagging. tends to work at the moment. before, he was having strip washes at the sink. maybe he would be alright with that as thats what it used to be. they can be clean just with a wash.
thats weird, its the shaving i have to remind him to do.Hi @jennifer1967
My husband is more than reluctant and flatly refuses and gets really verbally aggressive if I try to nag him about it and says he's not a child but he is still in complete denial after 8 months.... there is a history of abuse ( not me i hasten to add) in our home so I must admit I back off for safety reasons .....But bizarrely enough he shaves every couple of days......where is the logic I ask myself ? But of course as we all know all too well there is no logic in a dementia brain? but will persevere when I believe it's safe to do so .....but what an excellent idea . sapphire turner wet wipes thank you very much to you both
could you put some liquid soap in the water for washing. then he doesnt have to worry about soap. he then can have a wash in the sink with soap already in there.I have trouble getting my husband into the shower he says washing at the sink but doesn’t know to use soap I pick my battles getting him into the shower I put the shower gel on a sponge and get him to wash his body it is a nightmare because his hearing is so bad I’m shouting prompting him what to do as for shaving he tries but isn’t sucessful I got andc electric shaver but still not great it ends up that I end up trying to shave him my hands are bad and deformed with arthritis so i find this very difficult
Yes I will give this a try he doesn’t like me in the bathroom with him as he doesn’t recognise me as his wife but I will try anything thank youcould you put some liquid soap in the water for washing. then he doesnt have to worry about soap. he then can have a wash in the sink with soap already in there.
can you just put a bit of water in and soap in the basin before he goes in?Yes I will give this a try he doesn’t like me in the bathroom with him as he doesn’t recognise me as his wife but I will try anything thank you