This is my first post here on the forum.
I am wanting some general advice and peoples experiences.
My grandad is in his late stages of dementia. He’s currently in a care home. He has been bed bound now for almost 3 weeks. He’s on roughly day 10 of no food (it could be longer) he also hasn’t drank any fluids for 4-5 days. They are swabbing his lips with a sponge for moisture. He has lost all his ability to swallow. He is asleep pretty much all the time now apart from the few seconds that he opens his eyes. We are lucky that we get to go and see him due to some covid restrictions still in place. My question is how long do we have left with him? When I see him and he looks at me, he cries and that breaks me heart because I think he knows who I am but I can’t be sure. He knows who my grandma is and it’s so hard leaving him. We’ve been told that we are waiting for his breathing to change so we know it’s coming to an end but I am constantly worrying. How have people managed with this? He also has a rare kidney disease and they are barely functioning. I am absolutely terrified everytime my phone rings. My grandad has been my absolute life and before Christmas last year he could still speak. He caught covid about a month ago once he went into the care home and it’s taken a downward toll since then.
Any advice would be appreciated.
Thanks, Megan
I am wanting some general advice and peoples experiences.
My grandad is in his late stages of dementia. He’s currently in a care home. He has been bed bound now for almost 3 weeks. He’s on roughly day 10 of no food (it could be longer) he also hasn’t drank any fluids for 4-5 days. They are swabbing his lips with a sponge for moisture. He has lost all his ability to swallow. He is asleep pretty much all the time now apart from the few seconds that he opens his eyes. We are lucky that we get to go and see him due to some covid restrictions still in place. My question is how long do we have left with him? When I see him and he looks at me, he cries and that breaks me heart because I think he knows who I am but I can’t be sure. He knows who my grandma is and it’s so hard leaving him. We’ve been told that we are waiting for his breathing to change so we know it’s coming to an end but I am constantly worrying. How have people managed with this? He also has a rare kidney disease and they are barely functioning. I am absolutely terrified everytime my phone rings. My grandad has been my absolute life and before Christmas last year he could still speak. He caught covid about a month ago once he went into the care home and it’s taken a downward toll since then.
Any advice would be appreciated.
Thanks, Megan