Mum is in a nursing home, not mobile and incontient and we have been told by the Doctor Mum’s Dementia is now severe. 6 months ago she was mild to moderate and now severe and been told that we have to accept she is only going to deteriorate further and just to make her happy
Dad is coming up with every alternative remedies he can find from Walnuts, Apple Cider Vinegar, Acupunctureand Hypnotherapy to ‘cure’ her or improve her back to mild to moderate stage.
He wants to bring her home for a couple of hours in a wheelchair, he thinks he can get her walking again
She is a Type I diabetic so we have to follow a low sugar diet but dad keeps trying to give her cakes fruit in the home ( they have discouraged that) but if she came home ( which I think is a bad idea) he would give her high sugar treats
I have spoken to the home confidentially and they said they will discourage her going home as she will get more confused and feels she is too frail. Dad think he knows best and says we are bringing home as she has no quality of life just sitting in a chair in the home. The home said she could go a trip out to the local park in warmer weather in the wheelchair if two people are with her as she leans over in a chair and it would not be safe for one person to cope with. Dad expects me to go with him and I have argued that I don’t feel comfortable to take her out anywhere at present as she has only be in the nursing home for 4 weeks
We have agreed to disagree but feel it is going to end in Tears - mine !!
Dad is very old school and think he knows best, I feel he is starting to show signs of memory issues and when I took him to the doctors the doctors put him on antidepressants and would not look at a memory assessment
Dad and I fell out 4 months ago and didn’t speak for days, he rang first saying he needed me to look after Mum as he can’t on his own
I do his washing and cleaning and sort out bills for him but he expects me to think as he does and I don’t
Dad has a temper and I don’t want it all to go pear shaped with Mum’s care and Dad
Mum seems to be settling well at the home so don’t want Dad to rock any boats with them.
Any Advice greatly appreciated
Thanks for reading
Dad is coming up with every alternative remedies he can find from Walnuts, Apple Cider Vinegar, Acupunctureand Hypnotherapy to ‘cure’ her or improve her back to mild to moderate stage.
He wants to bring her home for a couple of hours in a wheelchair, he thinks he can get her walking again
She is a Type I diabetic so we have to follow a low sugar diet but dad keeps trying to give her cakes fruit in the home ( they have discouraged that) but if she came home ( which I think is a bad idea) he would give her high sugar treats
I have spoken to the home confidentially and they said they will discourage her going home as she will get more confused and feels she is too frail. Dad think he knows best and says we are bringing home as she has no quality of life just sitting in a chair in the home. The home said she could go a trip out to the local park in warmer weather in the wheelchair if two people are with her as she leans over in a chair and it would not be safe for one person to cope with. Dad expects me to go with him and I have argued that I don’t feel comfortable to take her out anywhere at present as she has only be in the nursing home for 4 weeks
We have agreed to disagree but feel it is going to end in Tears - mine !!
Dad is very old school and think he knows best, I feel he is starting to show signs of memory issues and when I took him to the doctors the doctors put him on antidepressants and would not look at a memory assessment
Dad and I fell out 4 months ago and didn’t speak for days, he rang first saying he needed me to look after Mum as he can’t on his own
I do his washing and cleaning and sort out bills for him but he expects me to think as he does and I don’t
Dad has a temper and I don’t want it all to go pear shaped with Mum’s care and Dad
Mum seems to be settling well at the home so don’t want Dad to rock any boats with them.
Any Advice greatly appreciated
Thanks for reading