Good morning, some of you might remember that I'm looking after a friend that suffers from dementia. Things have been pretty bad lately, due to a combination of her condition & my own health.
My problem is that it is her son's birthday shortly ( not been once to see her this year & very rarely phones her) and she wants to travel about a 100 miles on a bus, by herself, to surprise him!!! This is were the problem lies, I can't let her go on her own, due to getting lost. I've tried to get in touch with him but he never answers my emails. I can't take her myself due to mobility problems. I understand that she wants to see him, but the thought of it causes me untold anxiety & stress. Last year I had to phone the Police as she got lost & I really don't want to repeat this. I've POA , this was done on the advice of her dementia link worker a few years ago. To me she's not in fit to travel anywhere on her own but she would tell you that nothing is wrong with her. GP is useless. She already had a go at me this morning, accusing me of being controlling. I can assure you I'm not.
Any advice would be very much appreciated.
My problem is that it is her son's birthday shortly ( not been once to see her this year & very rarely phones her) and she wants to travel about a 100 miles on a bus, by herself, to surprise him!!! This is were the problem lies, I can't let her go on her own, due to getting lost. I've tried to get in touch with him but he never answers my emails. I can't take her myself due to mobility problems. I understand that she wants to see him, but the thought of it causes me untold anxiety & stress. Last year I had to phone the Police as she got lost & I really don't want to repeat this. I've POA , this was done on the advice of her dementia link worker a few years ago. To me she's not in fit to travel anywhere on her own but she would tell you that nothing is wrong with her. GP is useless. She already had a go at me this morning, accusing me of being controlling. I can assure you I'm not.
Any advice would be very much appreciated.