I really need help!
I have supported my parents with Dad’s Alzheimer’s became worse last year. Mum has tried an overdose, climbed out of a first floor window and walked out on Dad several times, ending in my having to call police/social services.
Mum has refused all external support, letting them know that she is “fine”.
I spend a few days (I live 80 miles away) every ten days and have taken on finances etc. I’ve tried to confront Mum over the way she looks after Dad, not being consistent with giving meds, shouting at him. I’m not alone with this experience, my husband, son and brother are all aware of this.
Last week, I got a call from Mum to say she had packed and walked out on Dad. I also received a call from the neighbour (again) to say he was upset and on his own. I obviously called social services and the police. They found Mum but after speaking to Das, decided it was best to take to emergency respite. He had said he “didn’t feel safe at home”
Long story short; she has totally turned on me, saying it’s my fault that he’s in care. She has visited him at the care home but the manager has now requested a Deprivation of Liberty order because they are concerned she will try and take him out.
I love my mum and am devastated that she has become so spiteful (lying to family/friends about my actions.
She has contacted her GP to try and regain control. He’s expressed sympathy for my situation but is duty bound to his patient (despite telling me that she is unpredictable and cannot issue pain med in normal amounts and only allows a week strip at a time)
I’m at the end of my road - please help!!
I have supported my parents with Dad’s Alzheimer’s became worse last year. Mum has tried an overdose, climbed out of a first floor window and walked out on Dad several times, ending in my having to call police/social services.
Mum has refused all external support, letting them know that she is “fine”.
I spend a few days (I live 80 miles away) every ten days and have taken on finances etc. I’ve tried to confront Mum over the way she looks after Dad, not being consistent with giving meds, shouting at him. I’m not alone with this experience, my husband, son and brother are all aware of this.
Last week, I got a call from Mum to say she had packed and walked out on Dad. I also received a call from the neighbour (again) to say he was upset and on his own. I obviously called social services and the police. They found Mum but after speaking to Das, decided it was best to take to emergency respite. He had said he “didn’t feel safe at home”
Long story short; she has totally turned on me, saying it’s my fault that he’s in care. She has visited him at the care home but the manager has now requested a Deprivation of Liberty order because they are concerned she will try and take him out.
I love my mum and am devastated that she has become so spiteful (lying to family/friends about my actions.
She has contacted her GP to try and regain control. He’s expressed sympathy for my situation but is duty bound to his patient (despite telling me that she is unpredictable and cannot issue pain med in normal amounts and only allows a week strip at a time)
I’m at the end of my road - please help!!