Myhusband of nearly 50 years. Had his first stroke about 18 months ago. The MRI and X-rays. Gave us the staggering information that he was in the middle stages of Vascular Dementia.
Always a naturally quiet man, cricket on the telly better than at,the ground etc., never adventurous he had been quieter in the previous few years, I, always up for anything, and just retired hoping for holidays and freedom etc.,we are a non matching pair, but still i was shocked to find out this diagnosis.
His condition has deteriorated fast over the last year and he has had another stroke.
He has lost a great deal,of language, both speaking and listening and understanding. This makes communication very difficult
He has also lost almost all his mobility.
This condition is made worse by lack of ability to,process information, say “turn left”, he looks, guesses, and turns right.
This is terribly hard to deal with, and worse is the,slow shuffling gait, he uses, forgetting all about his right leg following the stroke.
I am tired, miserable, and feeling tied down and locked up, just at a time I was looking forward to
Having been a nurse all my life, I don’t feel that I have retired at all! At least when working we staff could “share” frustrating patients, but now it’s all me
So after that rant I guess you can tell how I am feeling, resentful, unhappy, and with a person whom I have always had a tremendous time with, a husband with whom a share brilliant memories, the father of my sons, whom he does not know any more.this disease is cruel
Always a naturally quiet man, cricket on the telly better than at,the ground etc., never adventurous he had been quieter in the previous few years, I, always up for anything, and just retired hoping for holidays and freedom etc.,we are a non matching pair, but still i was shocked to find out this diagnosis.
His condition has deteriorated fast over the last year and he has had another stroke.
He has lost a great deal,of language, both speaking and listening and understanding. This makes communication very difficult
He has also lost almost all his mobility.
This condition is made worse by lack of ability to,process information, say “turn left”, he looks, guesses, and turns right.
This is terribly hard to deal with, and worse is the,slow shuffling gait, he uses, forgetting all about his right leg following the stroke.
I am tired, miserable, and feeling tied down and locked up, just at a time I was looking forward to
Having been a nurse all my life, I don’t feel that I have retired at all! At least when working we staff could “share” frustrating patients, but now it’s all me
So after that rant I guess you can tell how I am feeling, resentful, unhappy, and with a person whom I have always had a tremendous time with, a husband with whom a share brilliant memories, the father of my sons, whom he does not know any more.this disease is cruel