If it helps your mum to know you have sought views...let her know that we on TP who have cared for our loved one single handed would absolutely be right with her in support of leaving the current care home arrangement as it is.
I am not suggesting this would happen to your mum...different circumstances...but mum became increasingly frustrated and upset by dad's illness even in the early to moderate stage...I gave her support of coursd but...with no previous history of ill health she died suddenly from a massive stroke. I will never know if looking after dad contributed and try not to think about it as it is upsetting and I can't change anything...do everything you can to keep your precious mum well and as stress free as you can.
I am not suggesting this would happen to your mum...different circumstances...but mum became increasingly frustrated and upset by dad's illness even in the early to moderate stage...I gave her support of coursd but...with no previous history of ill health she died suddenly from a massive stroke. I will never know if looking after dad contributed and try not to think about it as it is upsetting and I can't change anything...do everything you can to keep your precious mum well and as stress free as you can.