Can I ... Should I?
- Thread starter Sam Luvit
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It’s been a strange day, one where I’m not tied to times. I’ve ambled around 3 shops, bought dinner, walked around. No rushing. No checking times.
Youngest phoned. “I’m coming down”. I tried telling him he didn’t need to ... “I’m coming. End of”. Ok
Dinner went wrong. I lost it & told the men to deal & walked away. 2 neighbours asked about coming round. It’s ended as a brilliant evening.
We’ve talked. We’ve laughed. Everyone has gone to bed. Even Pooch, although I’m sure he will bed hop.
It’s been good. Boy does youngest give the best hugs
Youngest phoned. “I’m coming down”. I tried telling him he didn’t need to ... “I’m coming. End of”. Ok
Dinner went wrong. I lost it & told the men to deal & walked away. 2 neighbours asked about coming round. It’s ended as a brilliant evening.
We’ve talked. We’ve laughed. Everyone has gone to bed. Even Pooch, although I’m sure he will bed hop.
It’s been good. Boy does youngest give the best hugs
Sam, I'm glad youngest is with you and hope you have managed some sleep.
More (((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))) for the account!
More (((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))) for the account!
The not checking times was what I really struggled with. Life had revolved around Dad for so long I was totally lost without the routine & focus.
Morning all,
Sam, I hope you were able to get some quality sleep last night, it will take you some time to make good the deficit you had built up.
I'm glad your son came to see you. He is clearly a good lad - as he should be with you as his role model!
As Cat says, life has revolved around the PWD for so long, it can be hard to know how to fill the time when they have gone.
Sam, I hope you were able to get some quality sleep last night, it will take you some time to make good the deficit you had built up.
I'm glad your son came to see you. He is clearly a good lad - as he should be with you as his role model!
As Cat says, life has revolved around the PWD for so long, it can be hard to know how to fill the time when they have gone.
Sam so glad your boy is with you , and just when you need him the most he gives you the most precious of hugs. ...hugs. A x
Morning @love.dad.but.. Ooh, more hugs Yes, the intensity of the last 3 weeks will live on forever in my mind, we bonded
Yes, the intensity of the last 3 weeks will live on forever in my mind, we bonded
I always got on fairly well with my dad but even so his last 2 weeks of not leaving his side and that special time even when he was unconscious spent with him will stay with me...in a good way. I am glad you too had that feeling of bonding with your mum. Take each day as it comes and don't ask too much of yourself. Intense caring leaves a big hole suddenly and it will take time to adjust to some degree. Youngest sounds a diamond...family hugs are the bestMorning @love.dad.but.. Ooh, more hugs
Morning @Prudence9
It does feel so quiet. I feel like I need to go check on Mum, but it’s an empty room, with an empty bed.
Brother & I sit quietly with tea & coffee, he even asks me about crossword clues ... little sister might have a suggestion We are definately more comfortable sitting together, quietly getting on with our own interests
Thank you, the eiderdown hugs are sumptuous
It does feel so quiet. I feel like I need to go check on Mum, but it’s an empty room, with an empty bed.
Brother & I sit quietly with tea & coffee, he even asks me about crossword clues ... little sister might have a suggestion
We are definately more comfortable sitting together, quietly getting on with our own interestsThank you, the eiderdown hugs are sumptuous
Morning @Marnie63
Thank you, I’m just glad she’s finally painfree. It’s a day at a time, very strange time, feeling like I’m drifting & time has little meaning.
I’m musing over things I could do, later, visiting friends both near & far .... after all the paperwork, house clearing etc, I think I’ll need to get away.
Thank you, I’m just glad she’s finally painfree. It’s a day at a time, very strange time, feeling like I’m drifting & time has little meaning.
I’m musing over things I could do, later, visiting friends both near & far .... after all the paperwork, house clearing etc, I think I’ll need to get away.
I think that when you have done all the paper work, clearing etc etc you should start a new thread - Travels with Poppet
Hi Sam. Sorry to hear your news but really pleased that your mum is pain free and dementia free. (Sorry so late to post )
I'll add some hugs to the hug bank.
I hope you can when you are ready plan some travels in poppet.
I'll add some hugs to the hug bank.
I hope you can when you are ready plan some travels in poppet.
@Slugsta , @rosy18 , @reedysue & @love.dad.but.. It just felt like the right thing to do. Pooch knew she was not well, he whined & growled at me to make her better, he cried at times. He needed to know she had passed & wouldn't be back. I think I was right, he’s not looking for her like he did when I was visiting her in hospital. He is definately sad, getting lots of fuss n cuddles.
It is strange @love.dad.but.. I have no routine, time just goes, I don’t check my watch or rush around the shop. I stop & listen.
Pooch is getting walked more leisurely & longer different walks. It’s good for us both. Brother has walked with us too.
Pooch is getting walked more leisurely & longer different walks. It’s good for us both. Brother has walked with us too.
