I certainly did exceed my expectations. Forcing both paramedic & GP to look into the puke bowl, which was across the room from me, without me gagging at the very thought if it even being there She so wanted to be around Pooch, he was there all the time, snuggling up near her. I think I did ok
Mixed feelings for sure. I’m only worried that the closeness with brother will dissolve, he has to go back to his life & I have to find mine ... early days ... early days
Don’t go making me into a saint. I ranted about her too. I know I would not have survived the last 3 weeks without my big brother. He has been the hero of the hour IMHO. He dropped everything, slept on a single bed & encouraged me to eat.
Pooch is just tired, bless him. We took him for a long walk on the seafront yesterday evening. I think it was good for the three of us. He’s going to have to get used to being on his own for an hour or so again. Apart from hospital visits to Mum, he’s not had that in months.
It was the speed of it that has rocked me @Amethyst59 A mere 6 months from walking Pooch twice a day, to passing away. I pretty much knew she was coming home to die this time.
I learnt so much from this site & used it where I thought it might help. Walking Mum to the bathroom & down the stairs I sang to her ... quietly... “let’s go for a little walk ..”. It made her laugh & she relaxed rather than getting cross that she couldn’t walk so well. We had a giggle going downstairs as we sang “one man & his dog” in a different language. (The cares we’re well puzzled)
Hugs bag being raided ... they really help. Thank you
Thinking of you this morning and popping by with a hug or 6! The special time spent just the 3 of you and pooch whilst very traumatic and upsetting at times gave you and your brother the unexpected opportunity to talk and perhaps gain a deeper understanding of each other as young siblings and now. Many siblings do not step up as your brother did and that mutual respect is a good base to work from. Your relationship may go from strength to strength from here. You will also draw comfort from even in adversity recalling the funny times with your mum
God bless you Sam. You have run the good race and can be proud and at peace with your efforts for your mum and for us - your extended family and friends. “Resting in heaven” is how I like to think of my mum and yours . MJ
Thank you @Primrose19, I’m touched at how many people have read my ranting & frustration, I just hope there have been some smiles & that some of what we went through will help others to know where to look & what key words to use.
I have good memories in there too, bartering for trinkets on our holiday, while Mum & I agreed prices in a language they didn’t know. Mum thought that was so funny. The staff broke a few rules (no reserving tables) so we could watch the entertainment without too many steps to navigate. Mum was treated so well by them