Hello. I’m new to the forum today & have spent much of the afternoon reading previous posts which I have found very comforting. My Dad was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia 2 and a half years ago although he had symptoms for a year or two prior to diagnosis.Up until today he has lived at home with my mum & in the last 12 months has been supported by carers when his personal care started to slide. My mum has MS and as Dads condition worsened & he became incontinant it became too much for Mum even with the carers in place. My sister & I have been visiting care homes in readiness for choosing one but in the last week my mum hit breaking point & we have arranged some emergency respite while we find a permanent home. So, today the three of us took him to the temporary nursing home & it is the most heartbreaking thing I’ve ever done. Because we were worried he wouldn’t get in the car if we told him where we were going we just set off & after we had settled him in told him we were leaving him with the ladies to look after him for a little bit & we’d see him tomorrow. We plan to visit most days while he settles in. I know he will be getting the best care & will be better looked after than at home but he is used to spending all his time with my mum & im wracked with guilt that we have abandoned him. I am hoping that this feeling will ease because right now I just want to get in the car & go visit him again!