Hi this is my first post. My grandad has vascular dementia and has been in a nursing home for 3 and half months. He has had a diagnosis since last april/may. He was hospitalised a few times for infections and delirium and then they diagnosed vd. He was cared for at home for a while but he became unsafe in the night due to wanting to get up and then falling. My nana was caring for him at night but it became too much. He has had a few rough patches but he seemed to get strong again but the last 2 weeks he has got worse. He is unable to weight bare properly and it takes alot to get him to the toilet. He has lost his appetite and eats very little. He sleeps for most of the day and night now. But when he is awake he can become very agitated. We have had a couple of hospital visits due to dals but he seems to have little falls regularly. It is very upsetting to visit him and the constant dread of the phone ringing makes me feel sick. I'm not sure at what stage grandad is at but reading things he seems to have deteriorated alot but very quickly. Not really sure on what to say or do when I visit him and his constant pained look in his eyes is awful. This illness is so unfair. He is now having bouts of diarrhoea and I'm concerned that he will lose even more weight. Is this what to expect with vascular dementia. Sorry for the long message. I am thinking of every loved one who is dealing with this awful illness.