hi all
mum is in early stages (not that she will admit or acknowledge -all is good in her world!)
but have experianced over last few weeks an increase in confusing phone calls.
Usually relate to my dad - who died 4 years ago'
Range from:
''Is dad with you''
''Dad has left me -i can't find his clothes''
to other tame issues like - i can't find card / keys etc
i have tried everything - going with the flow, writing notes to put next to her phone, keeping a copy of dads death certfificate in drawer by phone
I loathe fibbing to her - but have tried that, i.e. ''dads popped oout'' - but she is not at the stage where thats enough - as will phone an hour later asking if he is back!
during day at work i can keep phone on silent (i check it hourly!) and my husband works from home & he usually bears the brunt of daily calls - but evenings - i sit & just wait for the phone to ring - i can't concentrate on anything and have divided my evenign into ''danger zones' - between 7.00 & 8ish -mum falls asleep - 9.00 to 10.30 - danger zone!
& late afternoons when she wakes up - can set your clock by it.
I keep a book of the calls receive and I almost want to throw it in her face during particualry difficult times - but i know that won't acheive anything.....
any suggestions / advice - or just tell me im not alone in this!!
thanks for reading
Sas
x
mum is in early stages (not that she will admit or acknowledge -all is good in her world!)
but have experianced over last few weeks an increase in confusing phone calls.
Usually relate to my dad - who died 4 years ago'
Range from:
''Is dad with you''
''Dad has left me -i can't find his clothes''
to other tame issues like - i can't find card / keys etc
i have tried everything - going with the flow, writing notes to put next to her phone, keeping a copy of dads death certfificate in drawer by phone
I loathe fibbing to her - but have tried that, i.e. ''dads popped oout'' - but she is not at the stage where thats enough - as will phone an hour later asking if he is back!
during day at work i can keep phone on silent (i check it hourly!) and my husband works from home & he usually bears the brunt of daily calls - but evenings - i sit & just wait for the phone to ring - i can't concentrate on anything and have divided my evenign into ''danger zones' - between 7.00 & 8ish -mum falls asleep - 9.00 to 10.30 - danger zone!
& late afternoons when she wakes up - can set your clock by it.
I keep a book of the calls receive and I almost want to throw it in her face during particualry difficult times - but i know that won't acheive anything.....
any suggestions / advice - or just tell me im not alone in this!!
thanks for reading
Sas
x