Yesterday was a trying day as some of the stuff my wife hasn’t said for months made a reappearance – she doesn’t know what medication she takes or why (that much is true despite attempts to tell her); she doesn’t know what to do – perhaps find a flat to live in by herself; she is packing to leave; at age 62 and retired I could then find a new wife and have the children that I have never desired; she has a bad left (or sometimes right) arm.
Our greyhound, a very easy dog to walk has suddenly turned into a puller whenever she has him (he hasn’t). She objects to him sniffing at things (a dog’s great pleasure) and gets very cross, then when I take over the lead becomes all solicitous and tells him to sniff to his heart’s content. Three times now she has used the dog’s stainless steel food bowl to heat milk for coffee, so I need to watch this closely as it is an accident in waiting. She picks up cooking implements and cutlery, washes them and puts them away before I have finished using them but ignores things that need washing.
We went to town on Monday afternoon and bought a table and chairs, My wife chose the chairs but could not remember doing so by the time we had left the shop. She saw an advert for a kitchen supplier and suggested that we should go there for a new kitchen – despite just saying how much she likes the new kitchen in which we were sitting at the time! She has become increasingly restless, disappearing upstairs several times during breakfast and at other times during the day. What she does is a moot point, although the drawers full of toilet roll, the several changes of clothes and my socks discarded on her bedroom chair offer a clue.
It is difficult to know how to help her when she is like this. She is suspicious of everyone and everything. Yesterday, to escape for a while, I spent rather longer than was strictly necessary trimming the ivy before it gets too high and clearing up leaves and other items from the grass, before giving it a good sluicing with my newly working garden hose. All the time though I needed to listen out for her rummaging in the fridge for inappropriate food to give to the dog.
Our greyhound, a very easy dog to walk has suddenly turned into a puller whenever she has him (he hasn’t). She objects to him sniffing at things (a dog’s great pleasure) and gets very cross, then when I take over the lead becomes all solicitous and tells him to sniff to his heart’s content. Three times now she has used the dog’s stainless steel food bowl to heat milk for coffee, so I need to watch this closely as it is an accident in waiting. She picks up cooking implements and cutlery, washes them and puts them away before I have finished using them but ignores things that need washing.
We went to town on Monday afternoon and bought a table and chairs, My wife chose the chairs but could not remember doing so by the time we had left the shop. She saw an advert for a kitchen supplier and suggested that we should go there for a new kitchen – despite just saying how much she likes the new kitchen in which we were sitting at the time! She has become increasingly restless, disappearing upstairs several times during breakfast and at other times during the day. What she does is a moot point, although the drawers full of toilet roll, the several changes of clothes and my socks discarded on her bedroom chair offer a clue.
It is difficult to know how to help her when she is like this. She is suspicious of everyone and everything. Yesterday, to escape for a while, I spent rather longer than was strictly necessary trimming the ivy before it gets too high and clearing up leaves and other items from the grass, before giving it a good sluicing with my newly working garden hose. All the time though I needed to listen out for her rummaging in the fridge for inappropriate food to give to the dog.
In fact, the lady got on so well with them, that they arranged to meet for tea and cake again a couple of days later. And then, rather than go to a cafe, they invited the lady to come for coffee to their house. Which she started to do on a regular basis, because, what do you know, she actually happened to pass near their house regularly! Then the carer invented some urgent appointments elsewhere "I'll leave you two to have a natter and some tea. Be back shortly." 
