Hi doodle. My mum was 91 at the beginning of May. I wonder if she'll reach 92 (but next May I'll probably be wondering if she'll reach 93!!). Mum has Vascular Dementia. I'm not totally clear from the medics what happened to her, but she slipped into what I would say is 'advanced dementia' very quickly. They did confirm that she has cerebral small vessel disease and also said she may have had a stroke that 'pushed her over' (my words, not theirs!).
I have to admit I have frequently looked up the prognosis for Vascular Dementia, but it doesn't really help. Seems to say about 6 years, but less for someone elderly. Mum bizarrely has remained 'on a plateau' for around a year now, which seems strange, considering her age. I very much suspect there will some day be another sudden event, which will advance her even further.
I'm caring for mum at home and it's been a year and eight months now. Sometimes it feels like an eternity! I hope and pray that mum's end will be peaceful, but of course have no control over that. My sensible head tells me that at 91 this can't go on for much longer, but I really do fear how many more years of my own life, at age early 50s, will be swallowed up by this dementia nightmare. Mum is in a state of oblivion and I'm one exhausted carer, it's very unjust, but there it is. What can we do?