Hello. Sorry to offend anyone, I am not suggesting of course, that care homes are not appropriate places for people. Several of my friends have their elderly relatives in care homes and they seem fine. I am saying that for me personally and for my mother it is not the way forward. I wrote my post asking for information about how to keep Social Services from trying to put my mother in care home when it is not in her best interests. I don't want to receive emails saying I am denouncing care homes and people who put their relatives in them. I never meant to say that. I apologise for people who think that.
I am fortunate that I can afford to supplement my mother's care with private care. I am also fortunate that I have a full time job that means I have a life outside of caring for my mother and I am able to go out to the theatre etc in the evenings and on holiday because I pay for private care, so my mental health is fine - I am not with my mother 24 hours a day but as I said she is no trouble at all now. I also have a flexible working pattern whereby I can be at home for all my mother's appointments. To me it is unfair to try and get a person into a care home when they are being looked after perfectly well at home. The problem I have is finding a care company who have the staff to do four double handed calls seven days a week. I am not apologising for the fact that I love my mother, who brought me up to be a reasonably decent human being and make sacrifices along the way. I feel I owe her to be make her final days happy.
Once again I apologise for any offence I may have caused.