My Mum moved into a care home a month ago, I accepted the offer as it was agreed she could have a room downstairs, I really didn't like the upstairs as it is a nursing area and folk with late stage dementia wandering about who can only go downstairs with a family member or carer, if they are able.
Mum hasn't settled is very anxious and wants to go "home" all the time. The problem is she is an "exiting" wanderer and stands by the front door all the time, as she looks more like a visitor than a resident visitors have let her out. The deputy manager has explained that they don't have the resources to guard her all the time, which I do understand. There are currently 2 spare rooms upstairs which "we" should think about. My gut feeling is that I will not let her move upstairs, there must be a way to manage this, she hasn't been there too long, they talk to her try to distract but still she stands by the coded door and keeps trying the handle.
I can't sleep for worrying about her, she is fully LA funded, much of a top up would be beyond me.
What do you wise people think? My thoughts are to speak to her social worker and find a more suitable place. She had a spark before she moved into the home, she has now lost this and is so sad, she gets the staff to ring my number on her phone and begs me to come and collect her. It's breaking my heart.
Many thanks for reading this
Esined
Mum hasn't settled is very anxious and wants to go "home" all the time. The problem is she is an "exiting" wanderer and stands by the front door all the time, as she looks more like a visitor than a resident visitors have let her out. The deputy manager has explained that they don't have the resources to guard her all the time, which I do understand. There are currently 2 spare rooms upstairs which "we" should think about. My gut feeling is that I will not let her move upstairs, there must be a way to manage this, she hasn't been there too long, they talk to her try to distract but still she stands by the coded door and keeps trying the handle.
I can't sleep for worrying about her, she is fully LA funded, much of a top up would be beyond me.
What do you wise people think? My thoughts are to speak to her social worker and find a more suitable place. She had a spark before she moved into the home, she has now lost this and is so sad, she gets the staff to ring my number on her phone and begs me to come and collect her. It's breaking my heart.
Many thanks for reading this
Esined