My mum 87 and is in an extra care flat (but she doesn't have a care package). Since we moved her down to live near me she has refused to go out on her own, and will not join in with any of the activities in the building, or go and sit in the communal lounge.
She relies on me to take her out which I do a couple of times a week.
Today on our way out some of the ladies were sitting in the foyer waiting to be taken to the local school for a show. They were asking mum who she was and trying to get her to come to the coffee morning. They were lovely and mum was responding to them n a friendly way but when we got in the car she muttered "old biddies!" and I said that they were probably younger than her! But she refused to even try their coffee morning or anything else. I just feel that if she did some socialising or any kind of activity she would be more stimulated and have a better quality of life. She watches TV and does crosswords (but rarely finishes one these days), and although she says she is reading she never seems to get to the end of a book and ask for another one.
I am not really asking for suggestions because I don't think I could get her to do anything, I am just sorry that it has got to this and am constantly watching myself for deterioration along these lines!!!
She relies on me to take her out which I do a couple of times a week.
Today on our way out some of the ladies were sitting in the foyer waiting to be taken to the local school for a show. They were asking mum who she was and trying to get her to come to the coffee morning. They were lovely and mum was responding to them n a friendly way but when we got in the car she muttered "old biddies!" and I said that they were probably younger than her! But she refused to even try their coffee morning or anything else. I just feel that if she did some socialising or any kind of activity she would be more stimulated and have a better quality of life. She watches TV and does crosswords (but rarely finishes one these days), and although she says she is reading she never seems to get to the end of a book and ask for another one.
I am not really asking for suggestions because I don't think I could get her to do anything, I am just sorry that it has got to this and am constantly watching myself for deterioration along these lines!!!