Mum 85 with mixed dementia has been in respite for 10 days, when she went in, it was because she had got herself in a right state, frightened living on her own, had carers in 3 times a day plus our visits etc, she also had a fall. She has really thrived in home, looks so much better, confusion and anxiety just seemed to melt away. As it nears time for her to go home or stay in care home on extended respite, she is really mithered again, want to go home but also knows she is better off where she is, she doesn't really remember much about how she was prior to going in but does remember the fear and the loneliness between carers and us calling. From a selfish point of view we want her yo stay there, she is self funding and can thankfully afford it, but it seems cruel keeping her away from her home but she is well cared for and as I say apart from mithering about home v care home she has been 100 times better, she keeps trying to come up with solutions, none of which give her or us the feeling that she will be safe and won't go downhill again, really not sure what to do