Morning all,
Canary, I think she is going to the loo - mainly because she often forgets to flush, these days so OH or I tend to nip in after her, even during the night, to do it for her. She suffers from 'stress incontinence' (has done for years) and at the clinic they said that this would mean that her bladder doesn't 'relax' properly so never quite empties fully - thats what causes the 'dribbles' when she coughs or laughs, if I've understood the nurse properly - but it also means that when she is asleep, the bladder will also relax and empty fully
There is medication that can help - but unfortunately, it also can worsen delusions and hallucinations, so she can't take it.
Have only been to Cornwall once, Spamar, years ago and would love to go again! Hope you have a wonderful relaxing break there, hun xxx
JM, I feel for you over the ring and the accusations. All my kids, as well as OH and myself, have been accused of 'stealing' , 'taking' or 'losing' items belonging to Mil - sometimes items she had years ago and long gone, occasionally real items, often items that have never existed. Like your Mum, Mil has come up with very detailed scenario's to discribe the circumstances under which one or the other of us has taken her possessions - she sounds so darn convincing and is so adamant, its so hurtful and infuriating. With Mil, I do what you have done this week - very firmly tell her she is mistaken and make it clear I don't want to hear her saying 'that sort of thing'. She huffs, but usually subsides - though it might re-surface again at a later date. I have no idea how to stop it, can handle it better if its OH or myself or even someone from day care getting the blame - but like you, I find it hard when its my kids on the receiving end of the accusations. I've had a quick peep at the pics on the link, and haven't spotted you yet - going back for a closer look later
Some really good photographs up there though!
Seemed to spend most of yesterday morning, and the early part of the afternoon on 'Mil related' business. Tried to hunt down waterproof pillows in the local area that i could go and buy - none in stock, anywhere. In the end, I bought a set of 'washable' pillows, have double encased them in waterproof covers, and am hoping that will hold her till the ones I've ordered along with the bed arrive. Although the pillows I've bought are washable, I find at the high temps needed to get the stains fully out, they don't last indefinitely - and of course, they can't be tumbled dry. At this time of year, with plenty of rain about, they can take 3 - 4 days to dry indoors, which is a real pain!
I also got an 'interesting' phone call from Adult services - same guy who contacted me after Mil had escaped from day care. I'm still mulling over what was said, but (my interpretation) basically it was if Mil's behaviour becomes very problamatic, either here at home with us or if she was in a home, then there is no other option to provide care for her within the county. So it would be a case of trying to find somewhere to take her, possibly quite a long distance away and a good chance that in the interim she would be placed into the local hospital in the wards that the CPN told me about - this guy warned me that that would be 'very bad' for Mil - its not a nice place to be in, apparently. That being the case, and as the new meds seem to be working at the moment and (in his opinion) I was obviously 'doing all the right things' and 'coping well', the review suggested was clearly pointless, as was allocating Mil a named social worker, so things are to be left as they are for the moment. Oh - and would I please get in touch if I could think of any other way that adult services may be able to help
At the moment, I just don't have the words to say what I think about that!
Mil had a bit of an 'exciting ' day in day care, apparently - they had a sort of DJ in, and whilst he was there, Mil got right into the swing of it all, singing and even having a dance - however, it was all a bit much for her, and afterwards she got very agitated. She simply cannot handle anything, even something pleasant, that is out of the 'norm', now
We got some of the backlash at home, with a bit of fretting about 'going home' - though not too bad - and some wonderful delusions/confabulations, including a tale about how she has spent the last two weeks breaking up the stones 'above the kitchen' to fill 'the green sugar bowl'
I did finally finish going through the pics from the weekend, and will put some up later - right now, I have a teen to chivvy along to get ready for school and Mil to get up - fingers crossed for a dry bed - or at least that she has left the waterproof cases on the new pillows! After that, quick fly round and get ready for my 'photo day' out with my friends.
Have a good day, all of you xxxxx
