Hi everyone,
It's a long time since I posted here asking for help... but I have a question and I know this is the best place to ask it...
I am posting here on my husband's family's behalf today. Hubby's uncle lost his wife about a year and a half ago to cancer. He's in his 80s. He descended into dementia fairly rapidly after her death (they had no children & were devoted to each other). This led to him going into a care home in Essex about a year ago. At first he was popular, he laughed and joked and settled well, then as his dementia became worse, he became abusive and the home said they were struggling with him.
Then last week he attempted suicide, we don't know how but we think possibly he tried to hang himself because apparently they have taken away anything he could try and hang himself with. They have taken his razor off him too. They admitted him to a psyche ward but he was discharged back to the home.
He is "effing and jeffing" at the moment according to my dad in law.
All his care is being sorted out by my hubby's auntie who is a lovely lady with no children of her own and her hubby passed away many years ago. She has had one or two strokes and is in her 80s. My hubby's dad lives about 45 minutes away, he is in his 80s too and still drives. So, he is going and trying to help. Hubby's sister also lives about 45 minutes away. She doesn't work, but can't drive.
I wondered, does anyone have any advice on what we could do to help, please? What questions should we be asking? I have asked if he is on any medication but I can't get an answer to that, and I don't know if he has even had a diagnosis of dementia. He is fully self funding his care.
All advice and suggestions would be very, very welcome.
It's a long time since I posted here asking for help... but I have a question and I know this is the best place to ask it...
I am posting here on my husband's family's behalf today. Hubby's uncle lost his wife about a year and a half ago to cancer. He's in his 80s. He descended into dementia fairly rapidly after her death (they had no children & were devoted to each other). This led to him going into a care home in Essex about a year ago. At first he was popular, he laughed and joked and settled well, then as his dementia became worse, he became abusive and the home said they were struggling with him.
Then last week he attempted suicide, we don't know how but we think possibly he tried to hang himself because apparently they have taken away anything he could try and hang himself with. They have taken his razor off him too. They admitted him to a psyche ward but he was discharged back to the home.
He is "effing and jeffing" at the moment according to my dad in law.
All his care is being sorted out by my hubby's auntie who is a lovely lady with no children of her own and her hubby passed away many years ago. She has had one or two strokes and is in her 80s. My hubby's dad lives about 45 minutes away, he is in his 80s too and still drives. So, he is going and trying to help. Hubby's sister also lives about 45 minutes away. She doesn't work, but can't drive.
I wondered, does anyone have any advice on what we could do to help, please? What questions should we be asking? I have asked if he is on any medication but I can't get an answer to that, and I don't know if he has even had a diagnosis of dementia. He is fully self funding his care.
All advice and suggestions would be very, very welcome.