I have been asking for advice for a while now and I have learnt a lot, adjusted my approach and reactions accordingly and things have been ticking along relatively nicely for a good few months.
Mum has vascular dementia diagnosed after a few worrying/distressing episodes about 18 months ago.
As everything has been on an even keel for a while, I sometimes forget there is dementia in the mix and think this just how my mum is at her age 88; she has always been strong willed and difficult to get on with, thinking she knows it all and she does it all, both her long term and short term memory have been ok although she does make things up and has the ability (or not) to pick and chose what she remembers which is more annoying than anything else but to strangers etc who have to call on her she seems to come across as perfectly fine.
I have both POAs; organise everything as she is also disabled, and manage all my mum's banking now behind the scenes. I say behind the scenes as mum thinks she is very much independent and very much in control of everything, she is always phoning people, the bank, the gas board etc etc to 'sort' things that have already been sorted.
I have moved all but her current account online to limit the calls to the bank, but due to her obsession with her money she receives her current account statement in the post and scrutinises, underlines, adds up the figures etc which was all fine and kept her 'happy'.
Apologies for the ramble but I would like to ask about a change to the situation yesterday.
So did mums shopping put it all away etc etc. Firstly there was a disagreement as who am I to tell her she wouldn't be able to use a smart phone (she has never had a mobile, computer or anything and I dread to think of what would happen if she could by some miracle have access to the internet) she said she was always at the bank sorting out her finances (many years ago now). Anyway she became quite agitated and produced last month's statement on which she has highlighted and added together two supermarket shops which were two weeks apart and asks me what are they playing at, £180 for two weeks groceries, I tried to explain to her that the last shop was for the following two weeks so it was £180 for four weeks but she was not able to take this on board and would not accept it. I also think, as I know my mum, she thinks she is paying for my shopping.
I don't really know what I want to ask; is this a worrying change and should I be talking to the Gp or doing anything else?
Mum has vascular dementia diagnosed after a few worrying/distressing episodes about 18 months ago.
As everything has been on an even keel for a while, I sometimes forget there is dementia in the mix and think this just how my mum is at her age 88; she has always been strong willed and difficult to get on with, thinking she knows it all and she does it all, both her long term and short term memory have been ok although she does make things up and has the ability (or not) to pick and chose what she remembers which is more annoying than anything else but to strangers etc who have to call on her she seems to come across as perfectly fine.
I have both POAs; organise everything as she is also disabled, and manage all my mum's banking now behind the scenes. I say behind the scenes as mum thinks she is very much independent and very much in control of everything, she is always phoning people, the bank, the gas board etc etc to 'sort' things that have already been sorted.
I have moved all but her current account online to limit the calls to the bank, but due to her obsession with her money she receives her current account statement in the post and scrutinises, underlines, adds up the figures etc which was all fine and kept her 'happy'.
Apologies for the ramble but I would like to ask about a change to the situation yesterday.
So did mums shopping put it all away etc etc. Firstly there was a disagreement as who am I to tell her she wouldn't be able to use a smart phone (she has never had a mobile, computer or anything and I dread to think of what would happen if she could by some miracle have access to the internet) she said she was always at the bank sorting out her finances (many years ago now). Anyway she became quite agitated and produced last month's statement on which she has highlighted and added together two supermarket shops which were two weeks apart and asks me what are they playing at, £180 for two weeks groceries, I tried to explain to her that the last shop was for the following two weeks so it was £180 for four weeks but she was not able to take this on board and would not accept it. I also think, as I know my mum, she thinks she is paying for my shopping.
I don't really know what I want to ask; is this a worrying change and should I be talking to the Gp or doing anything else?