Would local authority consider funding 3 nights of overnight carers without my mum there instead of 2 weeks respite?
My dad has vascular dementia (he's 77 and was diagnosed 13 years ago). Over the past 4 years he's got worse and the past year he has rarely slept a full night. This means my mum also doesn't get a full night's sleep as she is disturbed by him, he leaks in the bed (pants can only hold so much), he wonders, has slipped off chairs overnight and cannot get up etc.
Mum has had 2 periods (4 weeks in 12 months) of respite funded by the Local authority but unfortunately it gave her more stress than respite. She was a state whilst he was there as the care wasn't great and it took a long time to get him settled and back into a routine afterwards. After the second time, she has said she can't do it again.
I would like mum to either visit me (I am 250miles away) or take her away for a few nights just to give her a break and an opportunity to have a few nights sleep. I'm planning to arrange for a family member to stay at their home to sit with dad but they wouldn't do the personal care etc. Dad has 1 carer a day at the moment so just wondering if the LA would be likely to pay for overnight carers for 3 nights and increase the daytime carers for a few days to enable mum to have a break.
We can't afford it from a self funding point of view and mum point blank refuses respite care after her experience. I'm just worried she won't get a break until he dies ☹️
Many thanks for anyone with any experience.
My dad has vascular dementia (he's 77 and was diagnosed 13 years ago). Over the past 4 years he's got worse and the past year he has rarely slept a full night. This means my mum also doesn't get a full night's sleep as she is disturbed by him, he leaks in the bed (pants can only hold so much), he wonders, has slipped off chairs overnight and cannot get up etc.
Mum has had 2 periods (4 weeks in 12 months) of respite funded by the Local authority but unfortunately it gave her more stress than respite. She was a state whilst he was there as the care wasn't great and it took a long time to get him settled and back into a routine afterwards. After the second time, she has said she can't do it again.
I would like mum to either visit me (I am 250miles away) or take her away for a few nights just to give her a break and an opportunity to have a few nights sleep. I'm planning to arrange for a family member to stay at their home to sit with dad but they wouldn't do the personal care etc. Dad has 1 carer a day at the moment so just wondering if the LA would be likely to pay for overnight carers for 3 nights and increase the daytime carers for a few days to enable mum to have a break.
We can't afford it from a self funding point of view and mum point blank refuses respite care after her experience. I'm just worried she won't get a break until he dies ☹️
Many thanks for anyone with any experience.