My husband was diagnosed in July 2023 after a couple of years of things not being right. He still absolutely thinks there is nothing wrong with him. We had the not driving arguements (he hasnt driven since July) but now he doesnt even mention it.
If the word Alzheimers is said in his hearing he gets very cross saying why are they saying that there is nothing wrong with me.
Some days he is reasonably ok, and I can still go out and leave him, although often he hasnt eaten if I have been out at a meal time. He struggles with the TV control so just has it on whatever channel I have left for him.
At one time he would have been ringing me asking me things but now he doesnt know how to use his phone so he doesnt "pester" me.
He tries to be helpful but even the easiest of jobs he doesnt understand or know where something is or asks questions galore and I end up losing it with him.
I would just go ahead and do the POA and Wills - get him to sign things and he will most likely forget he has done. We had actually done our POA's through solicitors before he got diagnosed but my friend is doing them online and says it is very easy. I contacted the DVLA and they did actually issue him his licence in October for a year, but I refused to let him drive as I wasnt prepared to take the responsibility. He would never go anywhere on his own anyway so if we are together then I am driving.
I have struggled with every step of the way but gradually got used to each thing. He has absolutely no idea how much we have in the bank, how to speak to anybody on the phone. pay bills or even what bills we have to pay.
All he can do is take our old dog for a 10 minute walk and load the dishwasher or wash pots - and even then only if he sees me doing it first.
We argue over nearly everything, the only time we dont is if we are sitting watching TV and I dont speak to him. He tells me off for shouting at him and for telling him what to do.
I better stop as I could go on forever