I needed a day like this and although tired we are both still buzzing and chatting about it although she can’t think what to do with the Easter eggs we got and neither do I as we have already handed quite a few out 😃That‘s heartwarming news @Agzy. Lovely photos too.
eat them? pauline looks so happy and pleased with herself. just sheer joyI needed a day like this and although tired we are both still buzzing and chatting about it although she can’t think what to do with the Easter eggs we got and neither do I as we have already handed quite a few out 😃
Thank you and sorry for the shock 😂Always read your posts so lovely to see the photos and can now put a face to the name.
can you get a tape recorder, record the answers and just press play when needed?On Friday our ‘corner’ shop, the Aldi, closed for extension and refurbishment work and so a large wire fence has been put up with placards saying store closed and one of them is opposite our window. Although having to go elsewhere for shopping and of course is a nuisance and I miss just nipping over for one or two items it is not that which is causing pressure! No, it is the d**n sign because every time it catches her eye the questions start, “is Aldi shut? How long is it shut for? Why is it shut? It must be open there are cars (and vans) in the car park?” And etc and repeated of course. Thankfully it is ‘only’ for 14 weeks - 3 months!!! 😫
Eek.. 14. weeks! I'd get some earplugs🤣🤣On Friday our ‘corner’ shop, the Aldi, closed for extension and refurbishment work and so a large wire fence has been put up with placards saying store closed and one of them is opposite our window. Although having to go elsewhere for shopping and of course is a nuisance and I miss just nipping over for one or two items it is not that which is causing pressure! No, it is the d**n sign because every time it catches her eye the questions start, “is Aldi shut? How long is it shut for? Why is it shut? It must be open there are cars (and vans) in the car park?” And etc and repeated of course. Thankfully it is ‘only’ for 14 weeks - 3 months!!! 😫
Exactly like myself @maggie6445 , a couple of hours knowing she is safe and well looked after and will not make demands on me or my time. When I take her and ring the entrance bell the door is opened and she is ushered inside in a very friendly manner and I just turn and leave. I do see other carers when collecting her but like me they are all otherwise engaged so I don’t really get chance to talk to them.Is the daycare centre Pauline goes to a lively place? My OH has started daycare . He's been three times . Each time I drop off it is very quiet. Staff are friendly and chatty but the other visitors are sitting quietly with a cup of tea. When I go back my OH is sitting in the same chair and again it's Very quiet. Last time there was a man pacing ,one asleep and the the other half dozen were watching a very old coronation street episode!
I'm not sure what else they had done apart from lunch but OH seemed happy enough and to be honest would have either slept or shadowed me for the day if he'd been at home. There was craft things on the table but OH wouldn't be able to do anything without some help.
This respite is for me as much as anything so if he doesn't mind, seems not to,then he's going.
We do lots together but it's time consuming and doesn't give me a break.
Is there another day care locally you could try that is more active?
I know she is guilt tripping but she is genuinely upset and the guilt comes in waves and I know it will be relentless for the next 3/4 days hence the “is it worth it,” question, thank youyou are notbeing selfish. you need that time. i have 2 1/2 hours twice a week. this week it will be 1 as bank holiday. when its raining, i feel guilty but im doing it for him as i have energy to do things when he comes back. also, i have a morning off housework, beneficial for my back.
you are getting the guilt trip by pauline as she does things while she is there but she wont admit that to you.