Our magic bitter sweet moments 🥰🥰🥰

[Chizz]

Just my ramblings.
Yes @sdmhred when you've been separated from the wider world you don't know what you've been missing (if that's the right phrase) because you've been locked away in a carer's parallel world.
Now you're out and about, you'll probably much more sensitive to all the world around you, which in my view is a good thing, and and probably better off for this more observant and more appreciative viewpoint.

 

[sdmhred]

Betwixt Christmas and New Year..

Thats how this time between death and the funeral feels for me…..especially the working days when you have to carry on as normal but all is not normal. ……I also feel we’ve had the Big Event and now we’re waiting for it’s younger sister. We’ve needed the gap to get bookings and organised but it does feel a long wait.

Fairly busy day…..2 friends called me (lovely but tiring), insurance company pains, a lovely walk ( new to me and interesting to see leftovers from Canadian troops in WW2) and a visit to the care home. It’s lovely to be welcomed there…staff and residents just engaging as before….a bit of pacing, asking if I can help with the paying the bill to the Pied Piper and reassuring a lady that her husband will be well at sea. As I engage with bits of the real world tho again I’m saddened at the exclusion of dementia. How the residents and especially the mobile ones, have not left those walls since I visited last week 😢😢 Again I know why, but it feels wrong to me that such lovely lovely people are in all senses incarcerated away from society. Maybe as they can’t leave for various reasons - society should go to them???

 

[Neveradullday!]

Brilliant post as ever, @sdmhred
Yes wouldn't it be better if a lot more of the community were involved with our friends with dementia.
Maybe things will gradually improve. A lot of people just won't want to know, of course.

 

[sdmhred]

jelly drops…

I forgot to say yesterday my sister was shopping in Wimbledon. Apparently they were going down the tennis train queue asking people if they knew someone with dementia and giving out jelly drops! Have heard much about them but thankfully never needed with mum…she got me a packet to prevent dehydration on my walks! And a 20% off voucher for my next purchase.

Pouring pouring today. I got out this am whilst only spitting. If I’m not too careful will actually get some sorting done!

We’re all set for funeral tomorrow. The only tricky thing is Dad’s old friend who doesn’t socially get when he needs to butt out. I’m usually very tolerant but for some reason not with him. We have a family meal (plus old friend) after and we will have to work hard to keep him away!

 

[jennifer1967]

jelly drops…

I forgot to say yesterday my sister was shopping in Wimbledon. Apparently they were going down the tennis train queue asking people if they knew someone with dementia and giving out jelly drops! Have heard much about them but thankfully never needed with mum…she got me a packet to prevent dehydration on my walks! And a 20% off voucher for my next purchase.

Pouring pouring today. I got out this am whilst only spitting. If I’m not too careful will actually get some sorting done today.

We’re all set for funeral tomorrow. The only tricky thing is Dad’s old friend who doesn’t socially get when he needs to butt out. I’m usually very tolerant but for some reason not with him. We have a family meal (plus old friend) after and we will have to work hard to keep him away!

tell him its some where else. when my great aunt died, my cousin just walked around after the funeral and invited us individually so those that she didnt want didnt find out. there is always someone that doesnt get it and has the diplomacy of a gnat. good luck for tomorrow, i hope it goes as well as it can.

 

[Chizz]

Yes @sdmhred , best wishes for tomorrow.

 

[Banjomansmate]

Hope it goes as well as you hope tomorrow.

Carol.

 

[Izzy]

I hope tomorrow goes as well as possible @sdmhred.

 

[jugglingmum]

I hope everything goes well tomorrow.

 

[Grannie G]

I hope all goes well tomorrow @sdmhred I’m sure you will have mixed emotions.

 

[Knitandpurl]

Thinking of you. Sending you hugs. 🤗

 

[Rachael03]

Thinking of you today ❤️

 

[maisiecat]

Thinking of you and your family today

 

[Miggs]

I have found such inspiration in your posts. Also thinking of you today

 

[DawnR]

Thinking of you and your family today. Hope everything goes as well as possible x

 

[sdmhred]

Thank you all for your wonderful support - what a great place this is 🥰🥰🥰
Today went very well and I am pleased …
but exhausted…

proper post to follow…

 

[Grannie G]

Have a rest now @sdmhred There’s plenty of time for a ‘proper’ post.

 

[Izzy]

I’m glad it went well @sdmhred.

Take care of yourself now.

 

[jennifer1967]

glad it all went well, time for you, hows the painting going @sdmhred?

 

[Knitandpurl]

Well done. Sleep well.hugs. Zzzzz