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Does anybody else have experience of this? Husband, 72 years old, who has vascular dementia isolating himself from myself and our family. He prefers to stay in bed most of the day, listening to the radio and playing games on ipad, only getting up for the toilet or to find snacks to eat. He rarely eats a full meal but 'grazes' throughout the day and overnight and usually will only eat alone in the bedroom which saddens but also infuriates me because he tends to drop food, spill drinks etc and doesn't make any attempt to clean it up. He has diabetes so has to eat but sugars are all over the place because of erratic eating pattern. Think this is partly because he forgets that he's eaten. He accuses me of nagging him if I ask him to do anything, like put dishes in dishwasher, and gets irritated if I ask him to feed our cats and when reminding him to test his blood sugars and take his insulin. I think this is a big part of why he stays in bed. He will not go shopping with me, even though I'm in pain awaiting another hip replacement, won't go out anywhere except to appointments. It was his birthday recently and he refused to come and sit with myself or the family, open any cards or gifts, stating he felt unwell but absolutely will not see a GP. Still eats and drinks fine. Four days later he opens his cards and gifts, wants to order a takeaway, eats half of it, drinks a half bottle of wine, watches TV with me for a while, then off to bed and has stayed there for the last couple of days again, back to his usual pattern. I really am at a loss as what to do. I'm accused of nagging or not being nice when I challenge him about this, or anything else. So frustrating.
I feel better for the rant.
Can anyone associate with this or is it just me? Thanks for reading.
Does anybody else have experience of this? Husband, 72 years old, who has vascular dementia isolating himself from myself and our family. He prefers to stay in bed most of the day, listening to the radio and playing games on ipad, only getting up for the toilet or to find snacks to eat. He rarely eats a full meal but 'grazes' throughout the day and overnight and usually will only eat alone in the bedroom which saddens but also infuriates me because he tends to drop food, spill drinks etc and doesn't make any attempt to clean it up. He has diabetes so has to eat but sugars are all over the place because of erratic eating pattern. Think this is partly because he forgets that he's eaten. He accuses me of nagging him if I ask him to do anything, like put dishes in dishwasher, and gets irritated if I ask him to feed our cats and when reminding him to test his blood sugars and take his insulin. I think this is a big part of why he stays in bed. He will not go shopping with me, even though I'm in pain awaiting another hip replacement, won't go out anywhere except to appointments. It was his birthday recently and he refused to come and sit with myself or the family, open any cards or gifts, stating he felt unwell but absolutely will not see a GP. Still eats and drinks fine. Four days later he opens his cards and gifts, wants to order a takeaway, eats half of it, drinks a half bottle of wine, watches TV with me for a while, then off to bed and has stayed there for the last couple of days again, back to his usual pattern. I really am at a loss as what to do. I'm accused of nagging or not being nice when I challenge him about this, or anything else. So frustrating.
I feel better for the rant.
Can anyone associate with this or is it just me? Thanks for reading.
