Turns out that the out of hours GP did NOT actually prescribe anything, from what can be understood. Spoke to his usual GP surgery before 09:00 but they say there's nothing on the 111 logs about a prescription for anything. So I've been waiting (at work) for a GP to call me back to discuss, as usually they would want to see the patient themselves before prescribing anything. But now we've missed the daily cut-off (11:00) for home visits, so even though I called before 09:00, if a GP calls me this afternoon, I will need to call again tomorrow before 11:00 to put him on tomorrow's home visit call list, because they won't carry it over from today.
I am a wheelchair using parent who will be 100% responsible, on my own, today, tonight and all of tomorrow, until Wednesday PM, for my daughter, as my husband is away with work. I am expected by the 111 system and GP to chase around, waiting for calls whilst trying to work; make lots of unnecessary extra calls to resolve a situation that should not happen - the out of hours GP DID assess him in person yesterday and told me he'd prescribed Naproxen. It should be a simple case of sending one of his carers to the local pharmacy to collect it, but no. That would be too easy.
I called a care home that has vacancies. Long story short, because Dad owns his house (with mortgage), he would have to be a self-funder, but his actual cash liquidity is next to nothing. We would not be able to pay anything until his house is sold and his local authority will not make a deferred payment arrangement if there is any mortgage on a house. How in the name of **** would he get into a care home?! The home I spoke to professes experience in dealing with wanderers and challenging dementia cases and she informed me that many homes will hear about his history of wandering and aggression and use this as an excuse not to accept him anyway. We will therefore be heavily restricted in which homes we could make use of, and this is all assuming they could be paid for.
No-one in the family can afford to pay top-up fees, but his local authority's payment rates of about £710 a week don't seem to match any care home at all, let alone ones who will accept an aggressive wanderer.
Today has made me far less hopeful that we are going to achieve anything at all.
Dad phoned me at about 13:30, when I was in a work meeting, so I went out. He was agitated because an unknown woman (aka the lunchtime carer) had "just walked in" and asked him how he was. He didn't seem to compute that carers come every day between 12:00 - 13:00 for a midday call. He didn't understand/accept she would have first tried knocking and that she DID call into the house "hello XYZ, it's ABC come to check up on you" because he is deaf and has forgotten how to use his hearing aids. I could hear the lady call into the house when I played back the Ring doorbell footage of her going in.
Then he asked me (tearfully) if I could take him on a trip soon. I asked where. He wants me to take him to the village where he went to school from age 8, which is some distance away. He was taken there over the Easter period by someone else (who shouldn't have done, but that's another story) but has, of course, forgotten that he's been there. He got quite upset when I said I would try to take him another day, because in his mind, there's either NOW, or that's it.
I'm sat at my work desk, typing this, and wondering how on Earth we will ever resolve anything with the funding issues, his difficult presentation and the complete lack of joined up anything from GPs and others.
So far, no comms from social services, despite the weekend safeguarding referral from the out of hours phone GP person. I await............
