Some of the regular poster’s on here know my Mum died unexpectedly in March. Although Mum was in the end stages of dementia she was still eating and drinking so her death was a complete shock. According to the care home she deteriorated around 36 hours before she died. They called an ambulance the day after she deteriorated and the paramedics felt she was close to dying and wouldn’t benefit from being taken to hospital. I’ve been unable to get anymore information from the home despite asking for a more detailed report. They insist they made numerous attempts to contact my step father on his landline and mobile. The mobile number they thought was his was actually mine and I certainly didn’t receive any calls. My step father always answers the phone and I’d spoken to
him a few hours before my Mum died. I’ve posted before that I had a difficult relationship with my Mum but I tried my best to ensure she got the care she needed and certainly wouldn’t have let her die alone.
I really am wondering what exactly happened. To make matters worse I’ve discovered two of the homes in the same group as Mum’s were placed in special measures by the CQC last year due to neglect of residents and a whole catalogue of errors.
The manager at the home described Mum as frail and immobile when she was admitted in a November last year. Mum wasn’t immobile and the CHC assessment undertaken at the home clearly states she could walk and transfer with a zimmer. Mum was also on 1-1s due to being a fall risk which the care home tried to stop. The manager also told me in an email that her GP had said in January that if Mum died her death wouldn’t be unexpected. Does this mean she was regarded as EOL?. This wasn’t communicated to my step father or me and I feel it should have been.
Although I’m relieved Mum is no longer suffering I feel really uneasy particularly when I’ve read about people being near death for weeks/months on here.
Mum’s death certificate states dementia as the sole cause as she didn’t have any other medical problems. I actually wish I’d insisted her death was referred to the coroner but was so shocked at the time I went along with what the GP said.
I’ve already raised my concerns with the CQC. Should I do anything else or just leave it.
Thanks to anyone who reads this far and responds.
him a few hours before my Mum died. I’ve posted before that I had a difficult relationship with my Mum but I tried my best to ensure she got the care she needed and certainly wouldn’t have let her die alone.
I really am wondering what exactly happened. To make matters worse I’ve discovered two of the homes in the same group as Mum’s were placed in special measures by the CQC last year due to neglect of residents and a whole catalogue of errors.
The manager at the home described Mum as frail and immobile when she was admitted in a November last year. Mum wasn’t immobile and the CHC assessment undertaken at the home clearly states she could walk and transfer with a zimmer. Mum was also on 1-1s due to being a fall risk which the care home tried to stop. The manager also told me in an email that her GP had said in January that if Mum died her death wouldn’t be unexpected. Does this mean she was regarded as EOL?. This wasn’t communicated to my step father or me and I feel it should have been.
Although I’m relieved Mum is no longer suffering I feel really uneasy particularly when I’ve read about people being near death for weeks/months on here.
Mum’s death certificate states dementia as the sole cause as she didn’t have any other medical problems. I actually wish I’d insisted her death was referred to the coroner but was so shocked at the time I went along with what the GP said.
I’ve already raised my concerns with the CQC. Should I do anything else or just leave it.
Thanks to anyone who reads this far and responds.
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