So, I had a phone call from Social Services today to tell me that the Hospital has now assessed Mum's delirium as being her new baseline and as such its no longer a Health issue for funding and she can be discharged from hospital. They have decided that her medical needs (terminal bowel cancer, stoma and a tumour that bleeds and risk of heamoraging) are not complex and thus not eligible for CHC or FNC. They have decided that as she needs (in their opinion) 24/7 care she is not safe to be discharged home and they are arranging a temporary placement (for 6 weeks) in a residential (NOT nursing) home of their choosing and location that I have no say over! They will not consider a placement at home with carers for 6 weeks as this would mean overnight care which costs more! So although I have PoA I'm being told that I have no real say in what happens next and I will be told when she is moved. I am supposed to use the 6 weeks to (their words) 'sort my life out' and decide how we will fund this care going forwards as Mum has more than the threshold in savings and she has a 50% share in the house that we live in (my Dad left his half to me in his will but his estate has not yet been settled as probate is outstanding so is a self funder. I asked what would happen if she hates the home and I want to bring her home and they basically said I would have to prove how I can provide 24/7 care before they would consider this option and suggested I'd need to give up work and arrange overnight carers. To add further stress, they advised that I get legal advice & representation re the house as this is unlikely to be discounted and thus I face potentially having to sell the house I live in when mum ceases needing care and they want the equivalent of her share of the house in backdated care fees. To say I'm reeling from this is an understatement, I've never felt so bullied (they refused a joint Discharge Meeting on the basis that there is nothing to discuss) and I'm now struggling to compute the reality that not only will Mum not be returning home to me as she wants, I will have to spend all her savings and probably mine too and lose what my parents wanted to leave me as their legacy! I intend to pursue the CHC / FNC route as when the hospital admit that they drop the diagnosis of delirium in order to get the responsibility for funding switched from health to social services, it feels wrong! It also now seems likely that Mum could be moved over this weekend and I will be told where she has been moved to! I think I need to get some proper help here or otherwise I will go crazy!