It is almost universal for people with dementia to only want family to do things for them. They are totally unaware of how much they are demanding because each time they think it is just this one thing - and they wouldn't care anyway because by this stage they are only able to see their own wants, needs and comforts.
Your mum's needs will only increase with time, and the more you do, the more you will be expected to do. Working in a care home is nothing like being on call 24/7 with a family member. In a care home you have other colleagues around, you go home at the end of your shift and have holidays and time off. You have none of that and will burn out (if you haven't got there already). You have to set boundaries and allow time for yourself without interruptions. Contact social services and tell them that you are no longer able to continue caring. Do not let your mums illness destroy your life and the life of your husband.
Your mum's needs will only increase with time, and the more you do, the more you will be expected to do. Working in a care home is nothing like being on call 24/7 with a family member. In a care home you have other colleagues around, you go home at the end of your shift and have holidays and time off. You have none of that and will burn out (if you haven't got there already). You have to set boundaries and allow time for yourself without interruptions. Contact social services and tell them that you are no longer able to continue caring. Do not let your mums illness destroy your life and the life of your husband.