Ok, so I am worrying about something that's not happened yet but wanted to see if anyone has felt like this. I have found a lovely ch for my mum, she is there on respite however I want to make it permanent. ch was chosen as it looks very spacious, more like a hotel, lovely rooms to sit in. Mum thinks it's only for respite and I feel she has settled in better with the hotel feel about it as she always tells me she never wants to go in a ch. I've looked at some lovely places, slightly cheaper that do have a ch homely feel but I feel she would not settle at this point ( plus they have waiting lists, which I have added her on to ) doctor has said she doesn't have capacity to make decisions regarding her safety and should stay in ch. I'm meeting SS this week to see what they feel and if they can support for the first 12 weeks. If I sell her house I am hoping for 5 years of care, I'm worried what will happen if she outlives the money? I've spoken to her doctor who said go with the plan, mums COPD has worried me more than her dementia recently. Mum has had constant exacerbations since November, gets out of breath just walking to the car or getting dressed. Anyone else have these worries?