I’m really worried and hope this thread can help me with my problems, my grandad passed away 2.5 years ago and since then or even before that my nan is showing all the symptoms and signs of dementia. she is forgetful, struggles to get her words out, cannot read the time or does not know what day it is. not eating, and also getting suspicious and aggressive towards my mum. My mum is dealing with the full effects of this as she is the only child and closest person to my nan but she is at a loss to know what to do because my nan will simply refuse to go to the doctors and refuse any kind of help - like she’s in denial and thinks she’s fine. she is currently seeing a chap who we (the family) have not met, she met him 3 months after my grandad passed but we are suspicious of him because he will refuse to meet us, is 10 years younger than my 81 year old nan, and has a girlfriend himself. it’s all very secretive and we are worried he is only with her so he can take her money. he is very controlling of her and is all she seems to think about or mention, he calls her 3 times a day but if she misses a phone call apparently he gets very abrupt with her, but we are also concerned because she can’t really string a sentence together let alone talk to this man three times a day. so it’s all very dodgy and we want to get her to a doctors but she will refuse. we also want a power of attorney to stop this man doing anything but she has probably lost all mental capacity to do so now.