Myself and my my gran are very close, always have been. I started noticing changes and flagged them with a doctor, long story short, she has vascular dementia. She has 6 kids, so of course I told them all. Only one is now trying to help, but I'm worried about who it is she is trying to help.
Since she found out about the diagnosis, my aunty has literally thrust a will form under my grandma's nose and told her to fill it out, filled in the online application for attendance allowance without asking my gran anything and without reading the info first, cornered my gran into agreeing to give my aunty the right to LPA, urging gran to open a new bank account, and various other things. Nothing here seems sinister so allow me to elaborate. My gran is worried she has missed a lot off the will form as she felt pressured to fill it in, also my gran signed it and handed it over for aunty to post, goodness knows what has been added. The attendance allowance came through and my grandma informed her, aunty insisted money was for herself, not my grandma. The bank account, I believe is so she can be there when its opened and gain control. As for the LPA, I am incredibly worried about a aunty having so much power. Everything my gran has agreed to has been under duress. I have offered from the beginning to do every one of these things, but aunty beats me to it as she needs the glory and must have it in her head that gran is going to lose her mental abilities tomorrow. My apologies for the really long thread, and for those still reading, thank you. so it comes down to this, I was advised to speak to adult social services about my concerns and see if there's some safeguarding can be put in place. I am interested in other peoples' opinions and experiences and possibly to be pointed in the right direction please.
Since she found out about the diagnosis, my aunty has literally thrust a will form under my grandma's nose and told her to fill it out, filled in the online application for attendance allowance without asking my gran anything and without reading the info first, cornered my gran into agreeing to give my aunty the right to LPA, urging gran to open a new bank account, and various other things. Nothing here seems sinister so allow me to elaborate. My gran is worried she has missed a lot off the will form as she felt pressured to fill it in, also my gran signed it and handed it over for aunty to post, goodness knows what has been added. The attendance allowance came through and my grandma informed her, aunty insisted money was for herself, not my grandma. The bank account, I believe is so she can be there when its opened and gain control. As for the LPA, I am incredibly worried about a aunty having so much power. Everything my gran has agreed to has been under duress. I have offered from the beginning to do every one of these things, but aunty beats me to it as she needs the glory and must have it in her head that gran is going to lose her mental abilities tomorrow. My apologies for the really long thread, and for those still reading, thank you. so it comes down to this, I was advised to speak to adult social services about my concerns and see if there's some safeguarding can be put in place. I am interested in other peoples' opinions and experiences and possibly to be pointed in the right direction please.